it’s been almost a year since my ex broke up with me. we were together for four and a half years bought a house together went engagement ring shopping and talked about marriage kids and our future. he ended things n september 2025 just 11 days after we came back from a romantic week-long holiday.
since then we’ve had no contact. the house is sold all our shared bills are closed and even though he only lives about 30 minutes away we haven’t crossed paths. our lives are completely separate now. for a long time i kept waiting for him to come back and say he regretted leaving me but eventually i accepted that it was over and stopped expecting it.
now that time has passed and i’ve started dating again i’ve found myself having this weird fantasy that one day he’ll start dating someone else realise it doesn’t feel the same and eventually message me to say he still thinks about me and wants to see me. i think about it way more than i’d like to admit even though i’m seeing someone new who i genuinely really like.
is this normal? has anyone else experienced this? how do i stop waiting for a message i know i may never get? because i’m actually really happy with my life now. i think a part of me just always wanted him to fight for me realise how special i was and come back so i could finally feel like i meant that much to him.
Last updated on:2026-08-24T22:42:11+05:30
Comments (6)
Give it up. Stop letting him live rent free in your head and move on.
He might regret it but even if he does there’s a good chance he will never admit it….. and he will just learn to live with it.
I feel bad for the new person you’re dating. You’re not over your ex
I have the same feelings about my ex. I will always have these feelings about her. She’s not open to reinterpretation she is an angel and my soulmate I will love her forever
People aren’t always apart because the love itself fades. Sometimes people are left with no choice. And leave still fully in love. And mourn as much as the dumped
Some do, some don‘t, my ex never came back to me. But I also know he didn‘t marry the girl he left me for
You are too good for him, it's evil to drop you after your week long holiday. Just focus on yourself, dont worry about if hes dating someone new. You are worth more than this