How do you move on after loving someone who hurt you?

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I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years it would be 2 years May 6th he broke up with me yesterday after me begging him to change and do better for me and then he never did he only changed for the time being then went right back to doing what he was doing and then broke up with me yesterday :(

Last updated on:2026-04-15T20:38:44+05:30

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UandI
UandI 2 days ago

i know it hurts like hell right now, but the only thing that helped me was accepting that temporary change IS the pattern, not the exception

kiwislove16
kiwislove16 2 days ago

I guess I'm slowly learning to accept what happened but it just sucks

Infinitelove
Infinitelove 2 days ago

when you think about it honestly, do you feel like he ever really changed for you, or was it always just enough to keep you there?

kiwislove16
kiwislove16 2 days ago

I think it was just enough to keep me around he would ignore me for everyone else and text me when he had no one because he knew i would answer

crownking
crownking 2 days ago

i stayed with someone who only changed for a week or two every time i begged, then went right back. that cycle messes with your head so bad, you start thinking if you just ask better, they’ll stay changed

kiwislove16
kiwislove16 2 days ago

I want him to change because I know he can everyone is capable of it they just have to want to change you can't force someone too

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 2 days ago

I know the outcome isn't what you wanted. You wanted him to step up, but he lacks the capacity to do so. You deserve someone who treats you right and isn't going to hurt you

kiwislove16
kiwislove16 2 days ago

I really wish he would have stepped up and been better we took a break for a month or two and got back together and for what? Just so he could end things like 4 weeks before our 2 year he heard me planning out a double date with his parents for it and wanted to and now we can't do that

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 2 days ago

@kiwislove16 lately what's been helping me is telling myself - why fight for a love if he didnt want to stay. As much as it hurts, we need to let go, heal, to make space for someone new who can give us what we need and love us how we need

kiwislove16
kiwislove16 2 days ago

@DreamyWay697 im gonna just take my time getting over things with him and do what I want for a while