i have a very strong urge to unblock her and ask why she left me a voicemail last night telling me that i needed to call her back. i need to hear why it’s better not to do this, otherwise i will do it…
Last updated on:2026-04-19T19:42:03+05:30
The temptation to unblock my ex: help!
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every time i reached out for “closure” i ended up feeling worse, not better. the urge passes, but the regret of reopening things sticks way longer
i unblocked mine once after weeks just to get answers, and it pulled me right back into that same anxious loop i had just started getting out of
remember why you blocked them in the first place. did they have a history of sending vague messages or making vague comments that would cause you to chase the conversation? this could be their way of trying to get you to reach out to them
that has been a common pattern, but at this point i’m unsure
@NotSoHapyGo2 then sounds like this is jus another ploy to get you to reach out. stand strong, remember why you blocked them at that they’re trying to manipulate you
I block, but I still get voice messages
so I deleted them without listening to them. Dealing with some 😔 guilt
why did you block in the first place? was it to give yourself space to heal? will calling her back give you closure or answers? or will it reopen a wound you are trying to heal? The choice is yours, but think about what you gain or lose from unblocking her
yes to give myself space to heal…i’m sure it would open a wound i’m trying to heal, but if i don’t do it then ill start spiraling with assumptions of why she said it in the first place :((
@NotSoHapyGo2 some people reach out just to validate you are still there, then will disappear again. I understand the spiralling, but is there something you can do to stop those thoughts? l like going for a walk, reading a book, listening to music?
Think about the outcome you want from the phone call? is it something she can deliver? or is it going to hurt you all over again
@DreamyWay697 thank you for being honest rather than sugar coating the truth. i appreciate you. i’ve been reading more and listening to music to help get my mind off of things. but the music part is what gets me. i’m someone who feels music in ways not everyone is able to. we were both the same in that way. we shared the way we feel music in ways i’ve never felt with someone before. so when i listen to music, i feel all things of her. when im trying to feel anything else…