When we were in the relationship I found I had to keep picking up after him and organizing his stuff otherwise he would lose things. then if he did lose things I would hep him find them. like I was his mother or his maid.
now that we have broken up I’m not doing anything for him and he still thinks he can ask for my help.
no sir. I asked you to clean up after yourself for 7 years, if you can’t find your new shirt now that’s not my problem!
Last updated on:2026-04-20T05:30:26+05:30
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does he actually respect the boundary when you say no, or does he keep trying to pull you back into helping him?
he tries to find different ways to get me to help him, or interact. it difficult still having to live with him but I’m keeping up my boundaries to one word answers and zero explanation for my answers
honestly the “no sir” energy is exactly where i got to too
was basically my ex’s manager, cleaner, reminder system… all of it, and it took the breakup for me to finally STOP doing everything for him
proud of you!
I'm sorry you put up with that for so long! Hope you're enjoying your freedom <3
There are a few comics by Emma about the mental load & the domestic/societal expectations that (mainly women in hetero relationships) often experience.
"You should've asked" (2017) and "Where does it go?" (2022), plus more on her website.