My husband that I've been with for 27 years, married 15 decided a month ago that he wants to separate. we have 4 kids, I am so heart broken. He says he wants me to be happy but without him. I have begged and cried for him to want to work it out. I know we both have flaws and there has been a lot of up and downs. He is looking for a place and him still being in the home,but sleeping on the couch is killing me. I have started therapy and I have a few people I can talk to. We talked yesterday and he said limited words, I asked he is cared and he replied with I have been his best friend for 17 years and he obviously still cares about me, I am the mother of his kids and he doesn't want anything bad to happen to me.. but he also has been little emotions and cold.. A lot has been said on his part. I just wish he would have made things more clear and in my face before it came to this, and I feel like he will never want to work it out or try again. I believe I can change, and we could have a better relationship and stronger love.. but as of right now he says he loves me,but not in love.. 😭😭
Last updated on:2026-04-17T22:25:34+05:30
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you feel like he’s already checked out emotionally, or is there still any part of him showing up for you at all?
he does things I ask or if he is out he will get things i need and I do the same for him, but he is very cold and no emotions towards our relationship
i feel this so heavy. i was with someone too and when they switched to that cold “i care but i’m not in love” it broke me in a way i can’t even explain
im so heart broken and I cant control my crying
17 years...that's a lifetime of bonding. Must be terrible to go through. so sorry :(
Yes! I feel so lost. I just want him so much and knowing he doesnt feel the same is breaking my heart so bad.
I just went thru something similar eith my husband of almost 14 years together. keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️
Thank you. I just wish he was willing to try again honestly, but I know the future could change. Maybe :(
@HappyXOXO520 for me, the chance for a possibility of fixing the situation was removed because the next time I came back home, all his stuff was gone except his house keys and wedding ring. he texted me previously to that that he hasn't been in love with me for over a year and after begging him to call me, he said the next step was divorce. I wish there was an easier way to navigate healing but its incredibly hard. we have been together almost 14 years and married for almost 10. this whole thing flipped my workd upside down. lean on people in your circle, lean on people here. you can get thru this friend 🧡 we will get thru this together ❤️
17 years, not 27 lol