I woke up feeling sad and missing the morning calls and texts he'd send me. Now Im only a day and few hours in no contact but I feel a strong urge to check him out but the fear that Ill just see how his life is going on well and it will unravel me. I know I should not cos I fear spiralling but the urge... man... the urge to just check him is weighing on me. what do I do? How does one resist that?
Last updated on:2026-04-21T00:42:08+05:30
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what usually triggers it most for you, is it the quiet mornings or certain memories hitting all at once?
Just the memories hitting all at once. It was more of a ritual... I'd talk to him last and first in the morning... It was either a voice call a message or a video call.
i had to make it harder to reach them, muted, blocked, even logged out for a bit. not forever, just enough to get past those waves when the urge feels LOUD, it actually helped me not spiral
first few days of no contact is BRUTAL, mornings hit the hardest. i remember staring at my phone missing those good morning texts and fighting the urge to check, it felt like withdrawal honestly
Thank you ... It does help. I bet my brain is like if you delete him completely then he is going to disappear completely but thanks... I think Im encouraged to do so too. just clear everything and make it hard for me to reach him. Thank you so much. I think hearing it from a person who has been there gives me the strength🫂
hey, has been 40 days for me since the breakup, the first 15 days were hard, then she texted me just to chat, my heart went all colors of hope, I relapsed, she just missed the feeling of talking to me, not me, I missed her and our relationship, I wanted to go back, I begged her, it didn't work, I tried to hang out with friends, go on hikes, restaurants, everything, I didnt want to think about her, I unfollowed her on socials because I knew it would broke my heart to see her as if nothing happened and happy, but always checked if she saw my stories, it wasn't ok, I wasn't ok, I relapsed 6 times already, had to block her on all social media just to stop myself of thinking if she saw my posts, deleted her number and the conversations, I don't remember the number so I can't text first easily, I'm weak, I know it, I miss her so much, but she doesn't want me back, and I need to make it harder so I can't reach back so she can reject me, and Hurt my feelings again
I hope it helps