I am unfortunately going through one of the low periods right now after not talking to anyone of my friends because we all share the same friend group and at times like right now so much feel so hopeless. Does anyone going through the same thing have any motivation?
Last updated on:2026-06-22T03:53:11+05:30
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i pulled away from our shared friend group too, and the loneliness hit harder than the breakup some days. it felt like i lost a whole community at once.
i'm sorry you're in one of those low periods. what helped me was remembering that a bad week didn't erase the progress i'd already made. i kept thinking i was back at square one, but i never actually was.
shared friend groups make everything messier. do you feel like you're avoiding them because it hurts to see reminders of your ex, or because you're worried things have changed between you and the group
I would say both
The back story as to why I am no longer a part of the friend group is because my best friend since childhood, pretty much right out of mine and my ex’s relationship they kissed. Obviously they are still friends but I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone about it anymore because he was the one I went to and I felt completely betrayed. If I were to talk to anyone in the group, whatever I would say good or bad would get around to either my ex or my best friend somehow. It’s been around 3 weeks since I talked to anyone and only one person has “checked” on me I guess. But it feels like it’s better that I am gone like me being apart of that group didn’t matter anyways even though, there is so much I did for that group. It wouldn’t have existed if it weren’t for me and my previous relationship. One of my other friends in that group got a job working with my ex’s dad because of me. I planned trips, spent thousands of dollar with no pay back, and all I get is kicked to curb like I never matter.
i unfortunately dated my one of my best friends' brother...it hurt like hell in the beginning because now her and I don't talk at all... what's worse is she stopped talking to my sister (who was her best friend of 20+ years)...lesson learned... you'll be fine, it's painful in the beginning but I like to think this has to happen for all of us to learn a couple of life lessons...i just don't understand why it had to be so painful yk
I am going through the same thing. I don’t know when it gets better. I’m just stuck and waiting for anything to change. but nothing is changing. do you have any friends outside said friend group?
Unfortunately I do not, I am kind of in the same cycle of just going home, going to work, sleep, gym and so on. I am doing my best to focus on myself, and improve who I am but even with all of that the quiet moments I have with myself are still so heavy
@BondRise991 it’s tough the alone time. grieving a relationship takes time but at some point your own brain will help you get out of survival mode and you’ll see that life can still be good. it’s just takes time and for most of us a lot of it.