last summer i met a guy online who texted me first and we ended up talking every single day nonstop. he made me feel special always respectful at first then slowly it turned deeper he started saying things like i was his soulmate and calling me sweet names.
we were from completely different cultures and religions i’m christian and he’s muslim so i used to say maybe it could only work in another life. but he always insisted no in this one saying the person matters more than religion. he checked on me cared about me made me feel safe even from a distance.
we lived in different countries so everything stayed virtual but over time i fell for him. he was everything i was attracted to funny masculine smart just my type. we talked like this for about 9 months until march.
i was supposed to visit his country this summer for other reasons and he kept talking about how excited he was to finally meet me making plans like it was all real. i believed him especially because he presented himself as very religious praying daily going to the mosque and i respected that.
then yesterday i randomly went through his instagram following and found a girl. something felt off so i dug a little deeper through her friend’s account… and then i saw it.
a post from september. a picture of them together her holding flowers a ring on her hand. they were engaged.
my heart just dropped. i went back to our chats from that exact day and we were talking before and after his engagement like nothing happened. he was still saying sweet things asking for my pictures acting like we had something real.
i felt sick.
she looked so kind and happy in the photos and all this time he was living a double life. engaged to her while talking to me every single day.
i keep replaying it. i can’t understand how someone can lie like that how he could look her in the eyes and still do this behind her back.
a couple weeks ago he suddenly disappeared and stopped texting i had a bad feeling and deleted our chat. now it all makes sense.
what hurts too is not getting closure. i never got to confront him to tell him i know everything. i’m stuck holding all of this in feeling stupid for believing him and for thinking i meant something.
i spent months building something that wasn’t real and now i can’t stop seeing that engagement photo in my head.
i don’t think he’ll ever reach out again. maybe they even got married already. and while i was waiting for a message from him every day… he was already gone.
Last updated on:2026-04-27T14:40:05+05:30
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do you feel like you want to confront him because you need answers, or because a part of you still hopes he’ll explain it in a way that hurts less
i went through something similar where he was telling me i was everything while living a whole other life behind my back.
I’m really sorry this happened to you. And first thing: you’re not stupid. You were consistent, open, and you believed someone who was actively building a whole narrative with you. That’s not a flaw.
What he did requires a level of compartmentalization that has nothing to do with you. He didn’t just lie once — he maintained two parallel realities for months. That’s not confusion, that’s a pattern.