i think i have accepted in my heart that we are done for good. even if he comes back i think i would reject him. i don’t deserve what he has put me through and i know i will heal from this. i know all of these things in my heart but i still check if he views my instagram story. i just want to know if he cares. i have removed him on every single app other than instagram, only because neither of us really use it so i didn’t feel the need when we broke up an he never posts so there was nothing to stalk. however, i went to a concert last night and posted a story about it. i am trying to have self control and not care but i have checked so many times if he has viewed it. i know the most beneficial thing for me to do would be to remove him off of instagram too but i am scared. that is the last thing that i can do. after that it is just up to me. there will be nothing else for me to remove him from. what if i do it and i still continue to struggle and think about him? i am scared to use my last card because then my hand will be empty. i know in my heart that i can and will get through this but that doesn’t help my fear. it is very hard feeling conflicted. i know what is best for me but i want to believe that i can be mature and handle leaving him friended. i don’t want to hate him and i would like to be on civil terms with him when this is all over but am i just keeping that mindset because i don’t want to fully let go? is maturity just an excuse i am making for myself? am i still holding onto this piece of him simply because i’m not ready to completely let go? i don’t know how i feel and i just want this to be over.
Last updated on:2026-05-23T05:34:59+05:30
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I think its quite the contrary beacuse you're reluctance and his inability kinda shows who cared more. cause think about it, is he as conflicted about this as you are? Is he frantically overthinking like you are right now? Or is he perfectly capable of letting go regards of whether you've friended him or not? Now the question is does it feel wrong that his still friended? Do check his page often because his still friended? Would you be abale to handel not havinh him friended? Regardless you find the strength someday.
I can relate! With time, you will find the strength to remove him from Instagram
You said it all. I know the feeling. My addiction to him is fading more each day. I've replaced it with feeling good about having no contact. he leaves voicemails but I don't listen to them I just delete them, because I know he is not going to change, but i have, and you can too.
hi
hi
how are you feeling about it now?
yes , i used to do it with myself, seeing his stories , view etc. then one day was completely tired of this.so yes i blocked him.i sometimes feel urge to unblock in instagrsm and see him but then it will start again.
you should block him for urself.u r emotionally vunerable right now.Sometimes maturity is let go and move on.Dont hate him,but block him and protect ur heart.
I was so much happier once I blocked my ex on my phone. I had a certain notification sound for him and every time I heard it I was so triggered. I have not blocked him on fb but I made my settings where he couldn't see any of my stuff. Just let go. You will feel better. It will be a relief.
imo you should complete the no contact and block on FB
@coryh922 yes, I have been thinking about doing so for a while. I never look at his page and he never posts anything.
I am
in the same situation…. it is a mutual feeling…
I am
afraid that I might loose him for always
as all of us do. over and done with. but it looks like you still have hope. I Can't tell you how many times I blocked my ex just to undo it again and again. I've come to the conclusion that I love him, but he's no good and no good for me. So I'm here on this app working for my sanity 🙃 hang in.
I know how you feel. I'm still checking to see if he leaves voice mails. That's the last thing I have left. Everything else is blocked. Hold on, It gets easier.
for me the shift came when i removed that last link. it felt terrifying and empty for a bit, but the checking stopped having somewhere to go and my brain slowly calmed down. it didn’t fix everything, but it gave me space i didn’t have before
do you feel calmer when you don’t check, even for a little while, or does the urge just keep pulling you back no matter what?
you don't have to decide this all rn. i took space with one of my exes for a year and when we reconnected we made up and became close friends. She is one of the people I know has my back. The night my most recent ex and I broke up she was the first person who i texted to call me back and I came over to her house and cried in her arms.
that last tiny thread you won’t cut because it feels like once it’s gone it’s really OVER. i kept one app too and checked it like crazy, telling myself i was “fine”… i wasn’t. that part where you just want to know if he cares hit me hard
I am in the same place. but I'm not going back, he cheating on me and that told me a lot about how he felt, no respect that's what I got from him.
I feel the same way and idk what to do either it scares me that I might get back with the guy that broke my heart even though he promised he wouldn’t