Dating after abuse: finding love but feeling lost

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i’m dating an amazing woman right now. we used to work together and were friends and her ex was there too they were together for 10 years and she only left last year at 29 after dealing with physical and financial abuse. we started seeing each other pretty much right after that.
things between us are really good but i feel behind in life no stable career yet. she wants a family and kids and i can’t shake the feeling that i might be wasting her time. part of me just wants to enjoy what we have while i work on getting my life together but she’s sure about a forever with me.
i keep thinking if i don’t figure things out soon and be ready for that future i’ll have held her back. i’m trying to find a way to earn well doing something i actually like or at least don’t hate.

Last updated on:2026-04-28T17:48:03+05:30

Comments (3)

heavylove
heavylove 2 wks ago

being real with her about where i was instead of trying to silently catch up. i stopped deciding for her what was a “waste” and let her choose if she wanted to stay while i figured things out.

meBEDOO
meBEDOO 2 wks ago

she actually sees you as you are right now and still wants this, or is that pressure mostly coming from inside your own head

haaddii
haaddii 2 wks ago

i felt like i wasn’t “enough” yet while dating someone who was so sure about me. like you start turning something good into pressure. i kept thinking i was wasting her time too, even when she chose me.