Why did he block me? is it really over?

hi everyone. i really need advice. Today has been day 5 of complete no contact and he blocked me that same day. everyone always tells me “he’s gonna text you just give it time to hit him” We were together for 9months and moved in together. I was there for him through so much even when he had nothing to his name i was right beside him. In the beginning of our relationship we were so great. months down the road, he became very insecure. he would go through my phone everyday we would hangout (i had nothing to hide) but it became unhealthy and annoying. he soon stopped after i told him how much it bothered me. In my pervious relationship we was very toxic and i opened up to him about it all. I took some classes to help with my career and my ex was in the class with me. i then told my boyfriend how he was in the class with me and he began to get mad at me? and for a month straight thoight i was cheating on him with my ex!! when we moved in together i would have nightmares about my ex after seeing him 4 years later and my boyfriend at the time would comfort me and tell me it’s okay. the next few days, he told me that it “makes him feel weird” that i am having dreams of another man in his bed? soon after all of this we started to get into some intense arguments with eachother. I have always been the type to leave because i grew up always seeing that which is no excuse. so when we started living together every big argument i felt he was taking out of hand i would always threaten to leave and pack my things. me and him met shortly after his mom passed. He would build up all this stress and anger and then if i did something so little that would make him mad he would blow up on me and make it my fault. i know i was definitely not perfect in this relationship at all. i have flaws. a lot of them. but during this time he would still make effort to surprise me with things and make me feel wanted. it became to a point when he started to spiral i did too. when it became closer to his mothers death date, he started to become more avoidant to me. he wouldn’t cuddle with me as much or make effort to show his actions anymore. he started to play his game every single day. i never said anything about it at all. until one day on our 8 months i wanted to go for a walk in the park, so we went. we get back home and he immediately gets on his game. i asked him if we could watch a movie for a little then he could get back on later and he proceeded to tell me how he needs to get on and play or he can’t grow a following? and it kinda made me upset so i just dropped it and he asked if i was mad and i said yes and explained why then he got mad at me? he hid his texts with his brother who he was abt to play with and i didn’t read them til a few days later but he called me a b!tch. he had NEVER been the type of guy to ever talk to or about me like that and he tried to hide it. days later i had a guy feelings to go through his phone and i found old messages from the first month of us being tg of him talking so vulgar and sexually about this nurse with his friend while he was staying at the hospital. i threatened to leave cause it just seems one thing after another and he rushed home and got on his hands and knees and begged me to stay and promised he will show he’s gonna change. then my mental health took a decline i was under so much stress with him and my family. i then asked my boyfriend if he could take 3 days and not play his game so we can have time with eachother cause i felt like our relationship was drowning. he told me no, then compared it to having a full time job and told me he should be able to follow his dreams and said he was tired of us arguing all the time he didn’t know how much more he could take. about a week ago, we went to a get together with my friends there was only 5 people there all of them were my girlfriends including me. they was making a tiktok, so i joined and shook my butt. (i was drinking and my friend never posts so i didn’t know she was going to post that ) the night i told him she posted it and i would say smth the next day he said okay and that he wasnt mad he just didn’t like it. That next morning i had a hangover and he expected me to text her to delete it right when i woke up and it started another argument and i was “disrespectful” . i began to pack my stuff cause i couldn’t do the arguing anymore i felt like i was always the one of the wrong no matter what. we both calmed down and talked things out and my friend took down the video. i went and stayed at my family’s house for a few days and 2 days later my friend puts the video back up. my boyfriend saw it before i did and he said it makes him feel uneasy so he needed time to think. a few days later, he tells me he wants to give me another chance rhen that following morning he came and broke up with me in person. but he was crying? i begged him to stay and told him i’ll work on my bad habits more. he told me he didn’t know if he even made the right choice and went to his mamaw and told her the same thing. i reached out to his family to apologize to them and they all told me to give him time, hell come around. he told his brothers and dad that we were done for good and called my brother to pick up my things from his house. he texted me that following day, told me to “stop contacting his family and that this was over for good and said he had too much going on to deal with this.” he blocked me before i could say anything and i haven’t reached out since but the only thing i’m not blocked on is facebook. he still has some of my things in his car. is it really over? is he really never going to come around? why does this not hurt him like me? did everything weve been through for eachother mean nothing?

Last updated on:2026-05-17T10:16:43+05:30