this might be an original experience…
but last night i had probably about 5 hours where i really didn’t think of him much, i really didn’t care, and i didn’t have the heavy chest feeling that ive literally been LIVING WITH for the past month since he dumped me. but as i climbed into bed, i was like wait woah, i just went a long time without feeling the absence. and then i sort of panicked, because i was like no no no i can’t move on, because that means he will never come back and it’s really over.
i’m really stuck in the “if i move on it won’t be you, and if i don’t move on it won’t be me” mindset. yes, things ended on good terms. no, im not blocked. but NO ONE KNOWS if he is ever going to come back around.
i know i need to let go fully, but even those 5 hours felt uncomfortable after because it snuck up on me randomly and i dont feel ready to let go of him.
Last updated on:2026-05-20T22:55:12+05:30
Comments (6)
i honestly think those little gaps where you don’t feel crushed are a good sign, even if they scare you right now.
the panic is because moving on makes the breakup feel REAL real now, instead of still feeling like maybe there’s a chance he comes back?
the first time i laughed with my friends for a few hours and forgot about my ex, i literally got anxious after because it felt like i was leaving him behind somehow. i thought healing would feel peaceful, but sometimes it feels like grief all over again
Yes , sometimes it happen when u finally get over wid the feelings but one day suddenly all those question came into mind.But we have to acknowledge the reality too.We should ask question from ourself what good will happen if we keep remembering the ex..and for blocking part. i will share my story i hope u will understand. i directly out of curiosity ,yes i was stupid, called him and asked why i am i not blocked .He said to me "I dont block people unimportant people" They dont deserve my attention to be blocked.So yes you can judge ur situation likewise
You nailed it when you describe that feeling. It's almost as if our mind thinks holding on to them mentally is keeping them close irl too. and the second we enjoy ourselves again, irs as if we've given the universe permission to let go...which feels wrong so we go back to hurting and obsessing
that's ‘cause we get obsessed with the feeling of being inlove that everytime we feel a gap, it scares us and it makes "moving on" feels hurtful, because we got immuned to the feeling, numbness suddenly feels unfamiliar and scary. It only meant we found home in love, even when home feels heavy and painful