Why does it hurt so much after he left?

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I recently got my stuff back and theres been no communication since. stupidly i do still stalk his socials. I dont know why but it still feels just insane that we dont talk anymore. it feels still crazy how fast he left my life. I get its normal to struggle but I just cant understand how it was so easy for him to erase me. I just had so much love for him and all our memories feel like a lie. everytime he told me he loved me so much feels like it ment nothing because of how easy he threw me away. I just cant understand it. im also just so sick of feeling like this. yes, some days are better than others but lately all ive been feeling is pain.

I think half of me just wants him to reach out. Just so I know 3 years ment something to him. I wish he'd want me back. Just to confirm to myself that he did love me. that 3 years was something real.

but truthfully I dont think I could ever forgive him for the amount of pain ive felt since he left. 3 months of this pain has just really defeated me. sometimes I feel i have progress but most times I feel like I haven't made any.

Last updated on:2026-05-25T02:46:11+05:30

Comments (5)

tornheart1
tornheart1 2 days ago

i think a lot of us secretly want that one message just to prove it mattered to them too.

bronto
bronto 2 days ago

staring at my ex’s socials thinking “how are you just… fine?” meanwhile i could barely get through the day without crying. the silence after years together feels so unnatural, like your brain still expects them to text any second.

tearyeye
tearyeye 2 days ago

do you think part of what’s keeping you stuck is needing proof from HIM that the relationship was real, instead of trusting what you felt during those 3 years was real for you too?

ItsNotEasy
ItsNotEasy 2 days ago

I also had a 3yr relationship that seems to have ended poorly. I say seems because the significant other didnt even have the respect to tell me we were over. they just blocked me on everything.

I find getting back into my hobbies is helping me cope.

LazerBoy855
LazerBoy855 4 days ago

i can understand this feeling.Mind always playing good memories that do not let u forget him.but u need to let go..he is not here anymore so these memories and feeling had to go