Sorry for my English, it's not very good.
Since the last time I wrote, I'm much better.
(It doesn't matter if your process lasts longer or shorter than mine, every process is different; you are experiencing grief now and it's normal for it to seem endless. It's normal to compare yourself to others for getting over it faster, just give yourself time to let go)
I just want you to know that there is a way out. I haven't cried in days. Sometimes I miss him and his company, but I know it was the best thing for me. Every day his face fades more and I forget things. It's been two months since I last saw him. When we were together, we saw each other every day. It's strange and difficult, uncomfortable to get over, but it's possible.
I want to leave you with a little motivational message: no matter how much it hurts, you can get through this. Cry and scream if you need to, but get up the next day and keep going, just like they keep going without us.
Even if it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, believe me, there is. You'll meet more people, you'll have new experiences. Life doesn't stop no matter how sad you are, and that's the hardest part. Time doesn't stop. So cry as much as you need, but always get up and be strong. Let yourself feel, but be strong. The pain you feel right now is a sign that you're healing, Every tear is a sign that you are healing.
Last updated on:2026-05-27T23:46:42+05:30
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the first week i realized i hadn’t cried that day and it scared me almost, like i was leaving a version of us behind. the part about their face slowly fading is SO real and weirdly painful too.
It's strange and painful to see him disappear, but I'm glad to know that I knew him and loved him. Now it's time to let him go and meet new people.
i’m glad you said healing isn’t linear because i used to compare myself to everyone who “moved on faster” and it made me feel broken
It's normal. It made me feel terrible to think that some people take years to get over it. I was afraid of being like that; I didn't want to spend years of my life begging a man. But over time, I realized that it's different for everyone. Some get over it in days, some in weeks, some in years. Just don't think about how long it will take. It will take you as long as you need to heal, and that's okay. Time never stops, and eventually, you will get over it.
when you said you still miss him sometimes but know leaving was the best thing for you, did that clarity come slowly over time or was there one moment where it finally clicked for you?
I think after begging him and seeing his lack of interest, I reached a point where I said, okay, I miss him, but clearly this isn't right. If he loved me, he wouldn't behave like this. So I had to make the decision, however difficult it was, to let him go. He really didn't love me anymore. How can I change someone's feelings? It's impossible. So I let him go.
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