just got in a breakup and unfortunately we ended things on perfectly good terms- which makes it harder. but I was dumped bc she needed space and time. wanted to make better friendships and work on ourselves and then basically said there was a chance of us getting back together. then she kept texting and talking to me after the breakup which made it harder so I told her let’s remove eachother from socials and go no contact!
Last updated on:2026-05-28T04:07:12+05:30
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i had an ex keep texting me after ending things too and every notification gave me hope again. i finally went no contact because i realized i was grieving while he still had access to me
you did the right thing. i know it feels harsh removing each other everywhere, but staying emotionally attached while someone is “figuring themselves out” kept me stuck for MONTHS. i couldn’t heal while still half waiting for him.
did it ever get easier or did they ever reach back out
when she said there was still a chance of getting back together, do you feel like she genuinely meant it or was she trying to soften the guilt of leaving?
50/50 it seemed like she meant it bc we stayed texting for all this week
I feel that. my boyfriend just told me that we are done and that I needed to work on myself and become happy again because thats when he loves me, when im happy not down.
Space definitely works!!! But the trick is to give it enough time. Some people cave when it gets too much and reach out again, but nothings really changed. Space gives you clarity on how to proceed forward
so how much space do I give 2 months?
@HappyWaves878 At least a month absolutely no contact. Essentially, you need that minimum anount of time for the bonding hormone oxytocin, which makes you wanna seek your ex out, to wear off.
@HappyWaves878 2 months is a good start
space works...but only temporarily if you both don't work on your relationship patterns. if the problem is not resolved it just keeps coming back. the on again off again cycle. constantly chasing the honeymoon phase. its exhausting.
how much space?