i was in an on-and-off relationship with a girl for about six months. a big part of the problem was that her mother never approved of me because of religious differences. a lot of our breakups happened because of the pressure that created.
about two weeks ago we had an argument and decided to give her mom some space especially since there had been a major family dispute going on. she asked me not to see or talk to other girls during that time and i respected that. we went no contact.
about a week later i realized i had handled part of our argument badly and wanted to apologize in person. when i went to find her i saw her hugging another guy. i asked if we could talk for just two minutes but she kept hugging him and looked over at me smiling while i stood there.
that moment completely crushed me. i can't stop replaying it in my head.
afterward i got upset and spoke to her mom about how hurt i felt. surprisingly her mom later said she would let her daughter make her own decision about the relationship.
now my ex wants to see if we can make things work again.
part of me still wants to try because i care about her but another part of me can't get past what happened. i've lost a lot of trust and i honestly don't know if i'll ever be able to get it back. i'm stuck between wanting to give it another chance and feeling like that moment changed everything for me.
Last updated on:2026-06-04T21:19:12+05:30
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has she ever explained what was going through her head in that moment, or has she mostly focused on wanting another chance now?
she hugged that guy intentionally and kept on smiling while you were watching, she doesn't consider your feelings, did she apologize?
if i couldn't stop replaying something like that, i wouldn't rush myself into getting back together. when trust cracked for me, caring about them wasn't enough on its own.
oh no, that's was diabolical of her because she specifically told you not to talk to anyone yet she went ahead and do that, and then disrespected you right in your face by continually hugging him. yes, that would cause a lot of trust issues because what if you all get back together and she's still seeing him? what if she had been seeing him while she was with you? what if things didn't work out with her and him hence the reason she wanna get back with you?. I'm so sorry pal but certain bells can't unring when you ring it
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️
where she kept hugging him while you were standing there hit me right in the stomach. i had a moment with an ex that lasted maybe 30 seconds, and years later i could still picture it frame by frame. some moments just stick