I just checked my ex's account again and saw that she followed many guys that were interested in her before and changed her whole style and personality. She was shy, family oriented girl and wanted me to marry her few days before breaking up with me.
It's been a month and i see that she is following many guys and looks like she's already interested in other guys. She promised me that she wouldn't date anyone else and that if she did that she would let me know, that we won't accept people that are interested in us romantically and here is she, gained 30 new followers in less than a month.
Why did she need to lie and did i matter that little?
I was really invested in our relationship and i always tried my best but it looks like she's entering her "hoe phase" analysing her actions.
Also she deleted all reposts that were about me but still didn't return my stuff.
Last updated on:2026-06-08T06:29:43+05:30
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hey stranger...so sorry for that🥹
it's sad but i guess life goes on and everything comes back with interest..
She knows you are watching, that's why she does that. Unfollow her and detach completely
i did unfollow instantly, she changed her profile picture many times and made her profile public and posted some sexy photos and some reposts saying how shes happy how she needs some good guy and idk what else. I can't believe that anyone could do all of this after everything i did. Do women feel regret after breaking up with guys that were genuinely good, ambitious, family oriented and never did anything bad.
she's for the streets. but on a serious note take this time to focus on yourself not your partner anymore. improve your life and maybe you'll stumble upon something better then her. I too was also invested in a relationship so hard but apparently she didnt think it was worth the trouble and broke it after 3 years.
hang in there with time things do heal even if they continue to hurt the pain becomes almost non existent.
Thank you, it crossed my mind many times after the breakup, but i couldn't bring myself to say it to person i once loved more than anything.
Is your stuff worth anything? If
not let her have it. it's just one more thing to keep you tied up emotional.. Maybe she's holding on to it, in case her hoe state doesn't work out and she thinks you would be dumb enough to take her back. You don't need used or damaged material. You sound like a nice person and don't deserve this. It would help you to stop following her on social media that just another emotional trap. Try to move on, You deserve better. make no contact, because if she rejects you again you'll be back in a bigger state of pain. That pack you made about not getting involved emotional with anyone else sounds like she wasn't really going to honor it. so if you play that game of hers you would still be sitting around holding your broken heart while she's off doing whatever. work on making your life better ✨️ there's no need to jump into another relationship now. learn to live with yourself, it's not that bad once you realize who you really are. Good Luck friend.
It's mostly just sentimental stuff, here and there are some expensive stuff that i wouldn't want back. I don't want to see her again, neither do i want those stuff that i know she used daily back.
I wouldn't take her back even if she was the only female on the world.
We instantly unfollowed each other on social media, but i always checked her followers number getting higher every day. I couldn't believe that the person i trusted more than anything made this deal with me just to break it so fast. I feel so naive, but i learnt my lesson i guess. I'll focus on myself now and try to find myself.
Thank you for your comment, i wish you the best.
how much of your pain right now is coming from what she actually did, and how much is coming from checking her account and trying to figure out what every follow and repost means?
good question, i feel betrayed and most of my pain comes from what she actually did, but also checking her account just prolongs my pain. However, after checking followers and reposts i came to conclusion that betrayal was real and that she lied which actually helped me a little bit in getting over her.
Hi, this reminds me of my ex-boyfriend. We were in a long-distance relationship. Less than a week after we broke up, I noticed that his following list had grown, and one of the new follows was a girl he had been interested in before he got together with me. My anxiety got the better of me, so I ended up finding out on my own. My intuition kept nagging at me, and eventually I decided to DM her and ask whether she was talking to my ex again. She confirmed that they were. After hearing that, I confronted my ex about it.The girl he followed was someone he had previously connected with on a dating app. They never really got the chance to get to know each other because their conversation eventually died out. She lives in the same city as him, although she told me they had never actually met in person. Still, I couldn't help but wonder whether he had gone back to his dating app account after our breakup and reached out to her again. I didn't understand how someone could seem to move on so quickly and act as if nothing had ever happened between us, especially considering that he had flown all the way from New Zealand to Indonesia to meet me and my family. When I tried to be honest and told him how heartbroken I was, he admitted that he was deliberately trying to make me jealous. Right now, I'm trying to heal from all the hopes and dreams I built around our relationship. I'm trying to let go of the future I imagined for us, especially because he once promised that he would marry me next year.. i truly believed in what we were building together, and that's what makes this so painful. What hurts the most is not just losing him, but grieving the future I thought we were going to have.
I hope you're staying strong through whatever you're going through. you matter!!! 🫂❤️🩹
Thank you so much for kind words, i hope the best for you!
It sucks that we that were invested in relationship and loved them more end on apps like these.
It felt real all the way till the break up, that's why i can't just get it why did she lie and do all of this and give me fake hope by asking me to propose to her 5 days before ending it and now it looks like she's thriving..
and also i heard that it's different for men and women and that women get over everything easier..
Nothing makes sense
@BraveSpirit745 Believe me, it's not easy for me as a woman either. 😿 I've tried my best not to distract myself and instead sit with the pain and process it (hurt people hurt people they say, i fear bad karma also). Most nights, I still cry. At one point, I tried suppressing my grief and holding back my tears for days, thinking it would make me feel better. It only made things worse. Eventually, I would have emotional breakdowns, struggle to catch my breath, and cry even harder than before. I've asked myself the same questions too. How could someone seem to replace me so easily? How could they look completely fine while I'm still trying to pick up the pieces? My ex seemed to be doing okay too, hanging out with his friends, going out drinking, and carrying on with life as usual. To be honest, there were times when I wanted to go through a "hoe phase" or start dating just to distract myself from the pain. Whenever I felt lonely, I found myself wondering if I should just open my heart to someone else and move on, since he doesn't love me anymore anyway. But deep down, I knew I wasn't really looking for someone new. I was trying to escape my grief. What stopped me was the realization that I know what it feels like to love someone that deeply, to build a future around them, and then feel replaced so easily. Since the breakup, I've struggled with the fear that if someone who once promised to marry me could move on so quickly, how can I trust that someone new won't do the same thing? For my own peace of mind, I eventually deleted Instagram. I haven't been on social media for about six months now, and I ended up downloading this app a few days ago just to keep track of the days without him 🥺😔
@faith14 Yeah but people say that it's different when girl leaves a guy. I was really good to her, i'm not ugly or clingy i look good, i'm 6'4, i always helped her financially, i never shouted at her and i was honest through whole relationship. I always told her that i will never force her to do anything that she doesn't want to, i always did the best things for her and focused fully on her.
After i helped her overcome her traumas and boost her ego she discarded me when my life became harder, she told me that she will never forget me, that she still loves me but not the same, she kept my stuff because she insisted to, she said that she won't flirt, date, post some provocative photos or do anything "immoral". Right after breakup she changed her profile picture a few times, every time it was more provocative than previously, she deleted every repost and picture of me from all of her profiles and followed 30+ new people in less than a month, including guys that were flirting with her before. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that i always tried my best, showed her real love and that she's valuable and she uses that ego to seek attention from some guys that are there just to use her. I still hope her the best but i don't understand anything.
@BraveSpirit745 From your story I see a part of myself in you for some reason, and I truly feel your pain. 🥺😔 A man like you deserves someone who truly values your devotion and chooses you without hesitation. I hope one day you will receive the same kind of love that you have given so genuinely to others! Your story also reminded me of something that happened to me today. Do you ever feel like every time you are finally starting to let go, that person somehow finds their way back into your life? I went for a jog this morning, and out of nowhere, my ex messaged me after such a long period of no contact. He greeted me, I replied, and before I even had the chance to read his next message, he deleted it. Now I am sitting here with so many mixed emotions. I genuinely want to move forward and rebuild my life without him, but I think what hurts the most is realizing that I still care about a man who comes and goes, and who was never really sure about me..
@faith14 My ex just moved on looks like it, without any consequences and left me planning our future. She lied to me, i was about to start living with her in about month and she was constantly telling me how she wants me as her husband, how she wants to be with me forever and a few days after she just broke up out of nowhere.
Now she's in her "hoe phase" posting sexy pictures, flirting with some other guys, living her life like nothing happened after i solved all her problems and planned every next step of our life. She said that she was overwhelmed even though i constantly told her through whole relationship to communicate her needs, if anything bothers her and i was her psychologist, trainer and everything. I made her life so much easier, boosted her ego, helped her get in shape, showed her that she matters and now she left like nothing ever happened between us and left me heartbroken with trust issues.
@BraveSpirit745 no that's definitely not true, at least for me. it's been more than 4 months since we brokeup and I've not been able to move on from him till this day
@HexiFly769 Yeah but why does she constantly surround herself with guys, friends, post some "sexy" photos and overall look like i never mattered to her. I think that she made her own story about me in her own head to get over me and that it just worked.
i was never going to get satisfying answers for every promise that got broken. i kept waiting for her actions to make sense, but all it did was keep me stuck watching her instead of taking care of myself.
i spent months checking an ex's socials and every new follow, every deleted post felt like proof that what we had meant nothing. looking back, i was building whole stories from tiny pieces of information and it was tearing me apart.
it's even harder when she gives mixed signals, says she loves me but not the same that she lost emotions and that she wants to focus on herself, that she won't date anyone new or let anyone flirt with her and then it just all shows itself clearly and i don't know how to feel about it. Is it just a coping mechanism that she seeks validation by posting some provocative photos and a lot of new guys or i just never mattered and she used me because i did everything that i could to be as perfect as i can.