I stumbled on a post on social media the other day and I saw a comment that I related to and I think y'all need to read it as well.
she said:
"why is it so hard for people to understand that some of us genuinely mean the things we feel. In a world full of temporary people and feelings that disappear the second things get difficult, all I’ve ever wanted was one person I could call mine and actually build with.
I know I’m only 22 but I grew up watching love hurt people so badly that now I care for people in the deepest way possible. When somebody means something to me, I pour into them naturally because that’s just how I am. I don’t ask for much. I don’t even like going out fr, I’d rather stay inside with you because your presence alone is enough for me.
The moment somebody becomes important to me they start existing in everything I do. I remember little things without trying, I make time no matter how tired I am, cooking for you without being asked… making it know you are valued, nurturing makes my heart happy.
What hurts is realizing the people I cared for never understood how much they stayed on my mind. Your smile would replay in my head all day. Everything reminded me of you. I did so much because it came naturally to me, not because I wanted something back. But none of them stayed. And I think that’s the part that breaks me the most because leaving genuinely never crossed my mind. I never wanted perfection, I just wanted communication, reassurance, effort, and two people willing to fix things instead of giving up the second it go uncomfortable. I’ll always treat people like they’re forever while they only care for me in phases. And it hurts because I never know how to love halfway, why? I don’t want to be loved halfway so I can’t bring myself to do it to you. Instead I pray God sends me my future forever daily bc I mourn a person I’ve never met before and I’m secretly breaking without them."
and is EXACTLY how I feel.
Last updated on:2026-06-07T11:55:35+05:30
Comments (9)
do you think you're grieving the people who left, or the future you imagined building with them? sometimes those end up feeling like two very different losses.
Both actually...
realizing that loving deeply isn't the problem, but i had to stop treating potential as commitment. i kept giving forever-level devotion to people who were still deciding whether they wanted to stay.
THIS!!!! it's so exhausting
i've always been the person who stays, who remembers the little things, who builds my day around someone i love without even thinking about it. watching people walk away from something i would've fought for with everything i had was one of the hardest lessons of my life.
I feel you
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️
Thank you!❤️
that's deep!!!!!