I know I shouldn't but I genuinely wanna break no contact like he's the avoidant type so I'm scared he might be disgusted if I do but I don't want him to text me in 1month saying he just wants to stay friends
Last updated on:2026-06-11T14:15:35+05:30
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cus I also thought about, I also wouldn’t want to marry someone who could go without checking on me or even ghost me. I could never fully trust him again if he were to come back even. so many months after I tried to forget about him and just not dwell on the thoughts of him that pass by. But some of my biggest regrets for my own healing in the beginning months was reaching out to him and focusing so much on the pain and the downside and not enough on finding where my value truly comes from and affirmations.
for me when I went through a terrible break up. I contacted only to get ghosted. so I started typing my messages to him on notes. messages that I would never send. with the date I wrote it and everything. and looking back, I am so glad I did not send any of those things and exposing more of my cards which were all already laid out. protecting my healing. and the time of silence and where I didn’t reveal my standing or thoughts, gave me so much clarity than if he were to respond or contact me. or for me to keep contacting.
that's what I was planning on doing but I sent him the message and well idk if he read it but we still yapped
i broke no contact because i was terrified my ex would come back with a "let's just be friends" speech and somehow that felt worse than silence. i wanted answers so badly, but all it did was reopen the wound
the thing that helped me was asking myself what i was hoping to hear before i hit send. most of the time i wanted reassurance, and i knew he wasn't the person who could give it to me anymore.
Yes I did that too and tbh I didn't send anything because I talked to one of our friends and he said he (my ex) would come back when he'll feel like it so I just hope it doesn't mean 2 months
if he replied today and said he missed you, would that actually be enough after everything, or is there something bigger you'd need from him to feel safe again?
It would be enough for me to know that he still likes me but I need both of us to be able to understand each other better and be the best version of ourselves so we can actually live normally and love each other like we did day 1