okay i’m not going to explain our whole relationship here but i will try summarise. in the beginning it was so good, we were undeniably soulmates. in the final month of us being together he had this whole personality switch which is why we ended up breakup up not because it was all his fault, but we both matured and grew as people and no longer worked how we used to. although i have now accepted this and realised that my months of begging wasn’t helping at all, i still cannot move on. it’s been 7 months and our anniversary would have been on sunday. i just can’t get the thought of him out of my head. he was my first love and i have never felt like this before, so i don’t know how to feel better. i’ve heard everything, read countless articles, listened to hundreds of tiktoks, yet nothing helps. if anyone has anything to say to help me move on i would really appreciate it
Last updated on:2026-06-27T15:57:12+05:30
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i stopped getting better when i kept searching for the one thing that would make me move on. for me, it happened little by little while i was living my life, even on days i still missed them.
anniversaries can bring everything back. 😞 can i ask, are you still in contact with him or checking up on him at all, or have you both been completely out of each other's lives?
I really understand how you feel because I'm going through something very similar myself. Some days it feels like no matter, nothing really changes. The only thing I'm trying to hold on to is the idea that this won't be my reality forever. Feelings don't stay this intense forever, even when they convince us they will. One thing that has actually helped me is trying to stop looking for answers about the relationship every day. Try replacing even 30 minutes of that with something that keeps your mind engaged, like exercise, learning something new, seeing friends, or even taking a walk without thinking about the relationship on purpose. Healing is usually very slow, but it does happen. You're not alone in this
I have found that reading all the stuff and listening to all the podcast helps in the first few days, but then that stuff keeps you stuck and stops you moving forward because you just keep analysing the relationship over moving forward. Getting out, moving your body, trying new hobbies and connecting with people is really the best thing you can do.