My ex and I are co workers and dated for 2 years and I hurt her by not taking her seriously and not being there emotionally when she needed me. We then stopped speaking for 6 months and dated other people. When those relationships fell through, we found ourselves getting close again.
We wont on an amazing date last Sunday that was perfect. Holding hands, hugging. Just an incredible night filled with respect and affection.
The next day on Monday, she seemed withdrawn and anxious. She said things like I dont think I can love you. I am a changed man and have told her she was the reason I have changed. I want to do things right with her, but she felt overwhelmed and has asked for a break/space. She said she needs time to process her emotions.
If a girl has already healed her heart and moved on from a guy, is there a chance she will allow her heart to love the guy again ? This is taking a toll on me and if I dont think theres any chance of reconciling I will go no contact with her and allow us time to heal.
I seriously care about her, but I feel like her heart has hardened to me. If anyone has any experience with this, please let me know.
Last updated on:2026-06-29T08:42:26+05:30
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what you wrote feels genuine. i'd give her the space she asked for and let your actions keep doing the talking. that's what would have mattered most to me if my ex had really changed.
i cared about him, but after i finally healed, letting him back in felt scary because i didn't want to end up hurt the same way again. that doesn't always mean the love is gone, sometimes the trust just isn't there yet.
Im going to just let things fizzle out naturally. I am in agony right now because I literally cant get sleep. I lay in bed for 9 hours but can't fall asleep.
when she says she needs time, is she still reaching out at all, or has she asked for complete space? that part would change how i'd read the situation.
She still reaches out, but I finally understand why she does not want to become vulnerable again. The pain changes a person and makes them promise themselves to never repeat a mistake. It's definitely finished between us, I will let things naturally fizzle out.
do you enjoy being a back up plan for her?
Considering I was in bed for 9 hours last night and got 0 sleep, I would say no. This is torture .
@Havingablast its soooooo hard, but that's your answer. Will power will come.
yes! Be consistent and reassuring