Lessons learned too late: my struggle with emotional manipulation

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It’s becoming more and more clear to me how much emotional manipulation happened to me and went on in this relationship and breakup. And still I am feeling the strongest need to voice that to her, to see her be confronted with that truth and feel hurt she caused me. I’ve done empty chair exercises and while helpful it hasn’t felt fulfilling. I suppose none of this is supposed to feel fulfilling. All the emotional and mental energy I’ve had to put into this, all the while she gets to move on unscathed with the guy she always wanted to be with even when we were together.

Last updated on:2026-03-15T09:07:53+05:30

Comments (6)

imaginme
imaginme 3 mths ago

do you feel like you want her to understand the hurt, or is it more that you want her to finally admit she knew what she was doing?

healinghope
healinghope 3 mths ago

both, but maybe more so getting her to admit to it

udemy
udemy 3 mths ago

i feel this anger in your words and honestly it makes sense.

biblolo
biblolo 3 mths ago

when i finally saw how much emotional manipulation was in my relationship, i wanted so badly to tell her everything she did and make her SEE it. i wrote messages i never sent, pages of them. the need to be heard like that runs deep.

healinghope
healinghope 3 mths ago

what helped hold you back from sending those messages?

NewYou0308
NewYou0308 3 mths ago

Just be thankful that God let you separate with toxic person in your life