my boyfriend of four years recently ended our relationship. we got together when i was 17 and he was 18 and now i'm 21 while he's 22. i truly believed we were building a future together.
he told me he had lost feelings and felt like he was forcing the relationship. not long after i found out he had been cheating on me with a girl from work who is also in a relationship. seeing the messages where he called her "babes" and "darling" broke me.
we lived together and now i'm facing a situation i don't know how to handle. i can't afford the rent on my own and he's ignoring my messages about helping with the bills. i'm a full-time student and don't receive financial support during the summer so i'm struggling financially on top of everything else.
i also have ongoing health issues that make day-to-day life difficult. i rely on support with certain things i can't drive public transport is extremely hard for me because of my anxiety and health problems and i work late shifts with no reliable way to get home. my family lives three hours away so moving back isn't a simple option.
i feel completely overwhelmed. i loved him with my whole heart and genuinely thought we would spend our lives together. since the breakup i've been physically sick with stress. i haven't been able to eat for days and i've been constantly upset.
right now i feel lost heartbroken and scared about what comes next. i don't know how to move forward when the person i built my life around is suddenly gone.
Last updated on:2026-06-22T18:02:11+05:30
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was cheated on by someone i lived with too, and the part that wrecked me wasn't even just the cheating, it was realizing the future i'd built in my head disappeared overnight.
have you told your family how bad things have gotten financially and emotionally, or have you been trying to carry all of this on your own?
Right now you're grieving the person you thought would always be there, but one day you'll realize the person who abandoned you in your hardest moment was never the future you deserved.
The most painful part isn't that he left, it's realizing the person you built your future around was already leaving long before he said goodbye.