My ex of five years left me a month ago. His reason: he hadn't felt love for seven months but didn't know why. I suspected as much; he'd been neglecting me for a few months. I lost my self-confidence. I had so much hope that he had regrets. Except I know I was an irresponsible and procrastinating person. I missed the greatest opportunity and I have so many regrets and remorse... Are there exes who come back in this situation?
Last updated on:2026-04-22T18:47:30+05:30
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you’re missing HIM, or more the chance to fix things and undo the guilt you’re carrying?
I miss them both. Him because he was a good friend, while I was rather childish and always on his back. I never thought someone like him would be interested in me, but I regret not understanding the importance of his few warning signs. If I could have tried to change and it had all ended anyway, it would be less painful because I would have done everything in my power and I wouldn't have been responsible for any of this.
i get why you’re wondering if he’ll come back, i did the same, but i was focusing on what i could actually control. waiting on him kept me stuck in that regret loop
But if he doesn't come back, I'll never feel this good again. I'm not the kind of person people like. He was an exception.
my ex checked out months before leaving too and i kept blaming myself for everything i “missed.” i replayed it over and over like if i had just been better he would’ve stayed
how to get out of this?
hey im here also in a similar kind of situation, my gf left me after saying she doesnt feel "the spark" anymore after 4 years, and she also didnt know why. i would be really interested how you are going on bc right now i feel like i am just worthless
I think I'm in denial. I can't imagine that my first love left like that. I don't want it to be over either. Because if it's really over, then hell begins, and I'll be condemned to watch him live happily ever after with someone else. So I'm not thinking anything.