It’s been a month today since the break up and i finally felt I needed to go no contact and block him on everything, I got broken up with pretty out of the blue after I tried to talk to him how his actions made me feel he blamed me for the whole break up and brought up problems we had month and years ago, he made me feel like the whole thing was my fault I pushed him too much and he just couldn’t do it anymore, now he feels the need to treat me badly and as if I would’ve never listened if he had brought up any of the issues he had. that hurt. now he feels the need to tell me about the new girls he’s been with and how much better he is without me. so did I really mean nothing ?
Last updated on:2026-04-28T08:17:44+05:30
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I bet he did everything he did only to hurt you. Proud of you for blocking him. He doesn't deserve your attention anyways not when all he does is hurt you. Im facing the same thing and I know it hurts but just remember if you get back with him he will not have changed nothing. He is still the same man....boy....he has always been.
I blocked him a couple of days ago as well. I am proud of you 🫶🏼
Go girl 💕 good job for blocking him
Happy for you for being so courageous and blocking him. I wish I felt courageous today.
I want to block him so badly. I’m having such a hard time. It’s not like he’s contacting me anymore anyway.
that is how I feel but I blocked him anyways. it would be waiting for the call and too much wasted time wish.
It's good that you blocked him. Today is the first day of the test of your life. Make the most of it.
sounds like he was trying to intentionally hurt you. Im proud of you for blocking him on everything. The healing starts now
he actually believed all that or was he just trying to hurt you because he couldn’t handle his own part in it?
i’m glad you blocked him, seriously. when mine started talking about other girls it was just to get a reaction, and staying exposed to that only kept reopening the wound.
i had an ex who flipped it all on me too, brought up old stuff and made me feel like i ruined everything, then acted brand new with other girls. that switch up messes with your head BAD
it really does
honestly, he s trying to blame you cuz he s immature and a kid. take responsability for what you do bro, stop hurting the girl that loved you so much. he’s acting like that cuz in his head he already broken up with you way before he said it, so for him it doesnt matter that much anymore. you deserve better!! stop speaking to him so you can heal, talking to him will only make you go back into the same hole. break the habit and leave him behind!!
If you meant nothing to him he wouldn't have put so much effort into being an a-hole to you after. You deserve someone who can take accountability when you let him know how he made you feel. My ex was terrible at taking accountability when she would hurt me. She would just get mad at me for the way I got angry when she hurt me. That's not a real relationship it's one person deciding their comfort is more important than your feelings
that is exactly what im dealing with right now. its like he expects me to ignore what he did, pretend it never happened. unfortunately we cant go completely no contact we have a kid and pets.
@NiksAbles that sucks I'm sorry. that's probably why he is lashing out. I think just figure out what boundaries you can set and what knowing you can ground in in yourself. it also sounds like he may be using DARVO which is a gaslighting technique. The podcast deconstructing gaslighting has been really helpful for me in building my understanding of gaslighting. I recommend it cause I think it may help you become more able to deflect these techniques when he uses them
It's all an act. He messed up but he can't show that kind of emotion or defeat in front of you, so he plays it off. Losing you harmed him and he's desperately trying to fill that hole