we broke up about three weeks ago. it was kind of mutual but she was the one who didn’t want the relationship anymore. we still work together and about a week ago we walked to the train station and ended up having a really deep conversation. she got emotional and started crying and i tried to comfort her.
when her train came i hugged her but that made her cry even more. when i asked why she said she didn’t want to lose me. i told her i didn’t want to lose her either and asked her to text me when she got home. she did said goodnight and then said something that’s been stuck in my head since “thank you for existing.”
the thing is when we broke up we both agreed we couldn’t stay friends. now i’m just confused about everything. this week is also our last at work so it might be the last time we ever see each other.
i don’t want to lose her but if she doesn’t want to be together i don’t know what i’m supposed to do.
Last updated on:2026-04-24T17:40:05+05:30
Comments (5)
i had to look at what they actually chose, not what they felt in a moment. if she didn’t want the relationship, holding onto those mixed signals just kept me hurting longer
you think she wants you in her life in a real way, or just doesn’t want to fully let go of the comfort you gave her
sometimes going no contact will give you space to find answers that are hard to get because it gets all confused and muddled up by emotions. its sad to say goodbye, but after time, youll realise if you can both stay in each other's lives
i’ve been in something like this, where the breakup happened but the feelings didn’t leave with it. those emotional goodbyes mess you up more than the breakup itself. when they say things like “i don’t want to lose you” it keeps you stuck in hope
it seems like maybe it’s hard for both of you. maybe this was the right decision, for now. that doesnt mean you will never get back together, it just means for now, you go on separate ways. and yes, when you break up you cannot stay friends, if you can it just means you never actually loved each other or they will want you back eventually. focus on yourself, and, if she is the one, you will find your way back to each other. sometimes people just need time to grow, that doesnt mean they never loved you.