We were in a relationship for 8 months, and we had a past before. We were forced to break up last year, but we tried in the summer and out of fear of it happening again, we gave up, and from September untul April 14th we didn't gave up on each other. I had some family problems that affected me a lot and at the same time him too because I told him everything that was happening to me. I refused to communicate most of the time because I was afraid and I could feel the tension between us when I said what I felt. The reason for our breakup was that he didn't know how he felt about me anymore and that he wanted peace and to recover his friendships of many years.He said maybe we'll be together in the future but only because I asked. He said it was my choice if we blocked each other on social media but the next day he did it. He said he tried so hard to change me that he lost himself. What should I think about this. Will he come back?
Last updated on:2026-05-02T11:47:20+05:30
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do you feel like you were able to be yourself with him, or were you always holding back because of that tension?
Sometimes I wasn't me with him, because I was afraid he would judge me or we would argue
why did he want to change you. Did he think you had something wrong with you? why couldn't he accept you as you were. 😕 confused. People can't change people. it has to come from the person and if you try to change for someone else you lose part of yourself and soon or later you'll start feeling bad.
He thought my flaw was that I didn't want to communicate with him, but when I did, I saw him pressured and that distanced myself from doing it. I had a really hard time in my personal life and he said that he is tired of telling me to change.
when someone says they want peace and distance, i had to take that as my answer, even when they left the door half open.
I think this is my opportunity too to grow. Thank you for your opinion!
From what I can see is that he wont come back , I feel like he was trying to tell you that he felt unappreciated in the relationship to the point he felt alone and lost himself in the process from wanting you to communicate to him about your problems , I get it you do not want him to know about your problems towards him . What he probably meant about "coming back together in the future" is that he doesn't want to end the chapter fully , hoping one day to open it again but still came to a conclusion in the end to just block you , he probably wanted you to focus on yourself first especially improving how to open up to your significant partner or any people that's important to you after the break up . Maybe he would come back when you change only the future holds that .
*(from what I can see is that he wont come back right away)
I get it, somehow I get him too even if this hurts me. I just hope for the best even if it means to go on separate ways 😭 thank you so much for your opinion!❤️❤️
you are strong and enough I am understanding what you are going through is difficult but it's for the best
thank you so much!!
i had something where we kept choosing each other even when it was hard, but the pressure and fear slowly broke us anyway. hearing “i lost myself trying to fix this” really stays with you.
I know is a sentence that makes you feel like you were the only one who messed up 😭
you deserve better. someone that wants you, wont make you questions your worth or change who you are, they just love you the way you are. he just wants someone else or is too immature to want something serious with you. i know its hard but try to move on. im here if you ever need someone to talk to!
thank you so much!