I know its only been nearly 2 days since I last heard from her but I'm really struggling alone. I get shes avoidant and overwhelmed but i dont understand how shes able to not message me and not talk to me, while I'm always overthinking abt everything to do with her
Last updated on:2026-05-27T22:01:12+05:30
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hen my avoidant ex pulled away, the silence made me question EVERYTHING while they somehow acted calm like nothing happened. those first few days were brutal, my brain literally couldn’t rest for a second
2 days is still SO fresh😢
what’s hurting most is the silence itself, or the feeling that you’re carrying all the emotional weight alone right now?
Both really, i really cant do space and distance, and feeling like I'm the only one trying to keep us together. But shes getting more and more distant and unavailable now and I'm really scared
I am in the same boat. he told me to work on myself... but Im consumed on the what ifs. and how I can be better ... im just so tired physically and emotionally. 33 and feeling like a failure
and she's not going through stuff at home etc?
I'm going through your exact situation. Broke up with me two days ago, she felt suffocated and overwhelmed. She started immediately treating me like I was a stranger. For me it felt completely out of the blue, but for her it had been a slow build. Biding her time till she was done.
It hurts so much right now, it hurts a lot. But try and take it day by day, eating even if its a little bit. Drinking water or tea even if its a little. Getting sleep any way you can. Remind yourself that you can and will heal, that this is the start of your own journey to love yourself. You got this.
I hope i do I'm really trying, my situation is so confusing tho. ive had no clean break up or ending, only blocking on the app we talked most on but still added everywhere else and sharing locations still. It really hurts tho still, thank you tho, it means alot
@GlitchTap146 That really sucks :(. She did similar to me, blocked on our messaging app immediately after our last talk. I was the one who took the initiative and removed her from everything. Remind yourself that no matter how much you love her that no one should treat you like that :( leaving you guessing but not letting you go. You deserve more than that, to respect and love yourself where she chose not to. We'll be okay friend.
yes .. now wake up! because she knows that you are in this condicion.. and that you want here back and you are still there waiting.
if you want to that she will one days tell you that she did the mistake and apologise you have to again to love yourself, close the door and just dont write to her! nothing for minimum 60 days, and she will come back.. because she knows that you are always there waiting.. so show her that you are strong person Who love yourself!!!
❤️❤️❤️ you desserve better !
I hope she comes back i really want it to be her, she said she still wants us but I'm just going to try my best to not message and actually give space, thank you
i can feel ur pain and trust me it wont be easy. U have to accept that she is gone and will not msg you.
She isn't gone tho, we still have eachother added on places and share locations
@GlitchTap146 mentally she is gone bro.Why chase her?
everything you're feeling is valid and the immediate no contact placement is hard and hurtful but you can get thru it 💪
I hope so, I'm really trying. I can't stop thinking is she either genuinely overwhelmed or am I being played with and i just feel so alone