Why do i feel like i'm drowning after the breakup?

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I'd drive 2hrs one way just to see them.

Buy them anything they liked, if they mentioned it.

Congratulate them when they did a great job and gave them praise.

Tried to be there to listen when they wanted someone to listen to them.

I never got angry or yelled and was always mellow in the relationship.

So why do I feel like I'm drowning?..

Last updated on:2026-05-28T23:14:36+05:30

Comments (6)

Aware010
Aware010 40 mins ago

i don’t think you were “too much” at all. i think sometimes we pour so much into someone that we slowly empty ourselves out without even noticing.

ItsNotEasy
ItsNotEasy 16 mins ago

this hit deep. thank you.

4evaA
4evaA 7 hrs ago

when was the last time they showed up for YOU the same way you showed up for them?

ItsNotEasy
ItsNotEasy 4 hrs ago

It used to be all the time..then gradually stopped.

KokoFizz308
KokoFizz308 10 hrs ago

I don’t know if you were too much or if you just loved them so deeply you wanted to do those things. it’s really easy to want to love your partner and do all these things for them. I don’t know the situation but if it felt too much it should have been communicated. you will be okay with time

mysticChu
mysticChu 11 hrs ago

i used to bend over backwards for someone too, long drives, little gifts, always showing up calm and patient, and somehow i still ended up feeling unwanted