I saw her at work today for the first time since our breakup last week (we are co workers). We dated on and off for just over 2 years. We compared eachothers grief over the last week and it was identical. We are both speaking to new people, but we both agreed it doesn't feel right and feels like a distraction from our pain.
I cant tell if this is a positive or negative interaction.
The positives are ;
1) I know for sure now that she feels the same agony i've been feeling. I am not alone in my grief.
2) We shared some light hearted jokes that reminded me of the past
The negatives are;
1) She mentioned how much she loved me in the past and how I have ruined the idea of love for her because of the pain.
2) We showed each other the people we are speaking too. I know this isn't healthy but I guess it was to prove to eachother that we are trying to move on. I know deep down we were trying to instill jealousy in each other.
The worst kind of breakup is the one where a tiny bit of yourself clings onto any glimmer of hope to get back together.
Last updated on:2026-05-28T22:46:12+05:30
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i had a breakup where we both still loved each other and those little “friendly” interactions kept feeding my hope for months. the jealousy stuff especially, i remember doing that too and pretending it didn’t mean anything
i think seeing her this soon after the breakup is reopening the wound every single time. when me and my ex kept comparing pain and talking about new people, it kept us emotionally tied together instead of actually healing.
I agree. I cant avoid seeing her as we work in the same facility. Is there any way to support eachother while emotionally healing ? Or just keep it professional and nothing else?
you think either of you actually wants to move on right now, or are you both trying to numb the loss because sitting in the grief feels unbearable
I believe we both want to move on. We acknowledge the love we shared in the past, but it also feels like our romantic relationship may have run its course.
Sharing our grief is a way for us to affirm that we are human and are having a shared experience.
The old versions of ourselves is dead, so in a way that old relationship is dead.
Extremely difficult to let go of somebody you see at work everyday.