its been 3 months since my 3 years bf broke up w me saying he lose feelings and a lot of disrespectful things … I cant digest it that how much can a person change so fast he doesnt care at all he moved on so fast he really loved me in the first 2 years … does it really get better will he ever regret or its only gonne be me grieving for years
Last updated on:2026-06-13T08:15:15+05:30
Comments (12)
there was a guy I was in a relationship with about two years ago. but I felt I loved him very deeply… and he broke up with no actual reason. not even trying to work it out. and said some mean things to me, talking to other girls a day after. it took me a little over a year to heal. most nights felt very devastated and betrayed. but eventually it faded. even though it took longer than traditional timelines for me to feel peace about it. I just got into a community of people who care for me, journaled, prayed a lot, and was gentle with myself. while he seemed very unaffected by it all and even happy. never reached out or came back again. I think what kept me in the pain at the end months of me finally getting better was that I chose to dwell and sit in memories. though there is a time to grieve all of those things and feel the pain. about a year in I just had to stop dwelling on those things and try to forget by making new memories with new people. one of the worst things I did for my healing was looking at his social media in the beginning months and trying to reach out to get ghosted. But it’s all faded now. but I promise it will get better with a lot of time.
omg girl are all the guys same 😭😭he never reached out to me either and when i tried to he blocked and avoided me he even broke our 3 yrs on chat
you need to focus on yourself. my ex and i were together for 3 years aswell. and she threw me away so easily. she said we were taking a break then suddenly I found out she was sleeping with a guy she just met.
so deep down it gets better and eventually your significant other will regret their actions probably as they see you get better and do better in life then they could even imagine.
i really dont think i can get better completely
@NovaBeat759 I didnt think so and I've been broken up for like 3 weeks..I was with her for 3yrs and she destroyed my heart the way she did it. she broke all my trust and everything.
But focusing on myself has been my goal for a longtime and I kept putting it off. so now I've been doing so much better been going to the gym, doing hobbies, eating better.
i might never know if they regretted it, and stopping my healing from depending on that answer. i kept waiting for some sign from him, meanwhile my own life was sitting on pause.
do you miss the person he was during those first two years, or do you miss the version of him who left and said those hurtful things? because those feel very different to me.
i hate the new version of him from the bottom of my heart and the fact he changed so much eats me up
my ex of seemed completely fine while i was falling apart, and i spent months wondering if i was the only one grieving. three months is still so early when someone was part of your everyday life for years.
when did it get better fy and to stop caring abt what he is doing in his life?
let him go. He sounds like a perk. Loving someone takes time and effort. Doesn't sound like he did any of that. You don't need to be disrespected that's not love. He probably tried to make you feel bad because that's all he has inside of him. you deserve better
He's not worth your time or you love. Save it for someone who does care. Work on your self-esteem. Do things that will build you up and make you happy. It will take time. Love is like an addiction and you will be hole again. I've been there came back stronger and happy again. Good Luck my friend.
i really hope each and every word of this comes true he was an avoidant so i hope it will hit him