hi. about 2/3 weeks ago me and my partner at the time had an argument about something minor that escalated quick quickly. things where said out of hurt and angry from both sides. she just blocked me on everything and told me not to contact her whilst still being in a relationship. couple of days later her social media status suggested she was single. fast forward a couple of days and me and her had a nice couple of hours together where we shared a kiss she told me to carry on messaging her and told me she loved and missed me. the next day back to being cold. I haven't heard off her now for 2 days. I have no idea what's going on or what's going to happen can anyone help
Last updated on:2026-09-09T16:24:07+05:30
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it's been a couple of days since I made this post. I met with her on Sunday and she said we could give it another go and we'd give the relationship another chance! but she's still requesting space! she's also pregnant!
half in and half out. sounds like she is keeping her options open for someone better to come along. you deserve better then her mind ganes. she knows your holdimg out for her. she knows if she needs anything all.ske needs to do is say your name. i am not into pllaying games with peoples hearts. the harsh facts may.be she isnt sure about giving it all.to you. Maybe she has concerns about you. maybe she has concerns about her but unless an honest discussion on eachothers goals are discussed ...it will end eventually.
Take some effort to show her how you feel. Did ahe ever want the two od you to do something and you never got aeound to doing? if so....try and do it. yeah neber know
honestly, when someone is toggling between "i love you" and freezing you out like this, putting your phone in another room or deleting the app for a few hours is the only way to stop checking it every two minutes. giving yourself even a tiny break from watching for her name to pop up helps you catch your breath.
sit with it in silence she lives 3 doors away from me so practically neighbours
are you two still living together right now, or are you having to sit with all this silence in your own space?
this gave me total hot and cold whiplash just reading it. my ex used to block me after every little fight, then turn around and say he loved me the next day, and that constant state of waiting for the other shoe to drop completely fried my nervous system.
it's doing the same to me. I haven't heard off her or sent any messages etc for the last 24 hours so I'm going to leave it now
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That sounds incredibly confusing, especially when one minute she’s telling you she loves and misses you and then the next she’s distant again. It definitely sounds like there are still feelings there, but she may also be hurt or confused about what she wants right now.
I think the best thing you can do is give her a little space for now and try not to chase answers. At the same time, remember that you deserve to know where you stand too. Hopefully, when things have calmed down, you’ll be able to have an honest conversation and get some clarity. Just try to look after yourself as well ❤️
thank you I did chase her at first apologizing. telling her id do anything for her bought her flowers etc etc. but after the last interaction and her telling me she wants nothing to do with me I've left it. but deep down inside I'm still holding on to the fact she's told me she loved me and missed me?
@CozyJoy658 I completely understand why you're still holding on to that. When someone tells you they love and miss you, it's really hard to just forget those words, especially when you still care about them. I don't think you're wrong for holding onto that hope.
But I also think you're doing the right thing now by respecting what she's asked for and giving her space. Maybe those feelings were genuine when she said them, but right now her actions are showing that she needs distance. Try not to put your whole life on hold waiting for her though. If she still wants to be with you and work things out, she knows where to find you. Just take care of yourself too ❤️