I feel like I am the only one struggling, when we were still texting after the break up he seemed so unbothered, even tho we were both crying really hard during breaking up and it hurts to think that he’s just fine :( sometimes i see his reposts and they are very confusing, some of them are kinda like “yeah i am sad” but the others are more like “idgaf” (i muted a hid everything else and can’t convince myself to unfollow). It just hurts and i don’t understand how he can be okay or at least seem like it :/
Last updated on:2026-09-14T12:58:12+05:30
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i had to stop using social media as a window into my ex’s feelings because it kept reopening the wound. someone can miss you terribly and still post like they’re fine, and someone can look devastated online and feel completely different privately.
i know you want some sign that he’s hurting too, but do you think seeing proof that he misses you would actually comfort you, or would it make you want to check his reposts even more?
actually, i think knowing how he really feels would help me move on, even if it means that he’s fine without me, at least i would know where i stand, if it makes sense
staring at an ex’s reposts and trying to decode every little “idgaf” or sad post like it was proof of how much they cared. meanwhile i was falling apart and wondering how they could look so okay when i knew we both cried that night.
Trust me, I actually wrote the exact same thing in my journal today. I know how you feel. I couldn’t understand how he could be so calm, going to parties, hanging out with people. I hear that he gets a little sad here and there, while I’m falling apart.
But I’m going to tell you something that all the older people around me have told me: it hits them later. And when I really thought about it, I realized they were right. They all start reaching out a few months later, when we’ve already started to heal from the pain. That’s when they feel it. When they actually realize what they’ve lost, when they realize that replacing one person with another isn’t actually that simple.
When you’re doing well, he won’t be. And that’s simply the way things tend to unfold. Survive this however you can for now, and your “justice” will come afterward, trust me.
Hang in there!
yeah i’m choosing to believe that it will eventually happen for him and i will be happy by then, it just sucks to feel this way :( THANK U
same as me Idk if i'm the only one struggling and we only broke up yesterday night, but his reposts do say he's hurt
i’m so sorry to hear that, hope you’ll be okay soon <3 and i do NOT recommend checking his reposts intentionally, trust me 😄