I broke no contact, after my ex said to our manager we were not together anymore (a day after the break up which I would have waited if it was a mutual decision!).
8 days later I messaged him, upset and feeling alone to deal with it due to him going on holiday for three weeks.
He said he thought the break up was what I wanted, that he fucks everything up and that he wasn't thinking straight when he informed management. and then says we can talk when he is back??
It all feels like such a mess.
work has been stressful for a long while now, but this is the cherry on top. and he knew that...
even if this does blow over and we ended up sorting things out, I feel so embarrassed by how it's all been handled.
Last updated on:2026-09-18T03:35:51+05:30
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when i broke no contact during my workplace split, sitting on my hands and writing everything i wanted to say to him in my notes app instead was the only thing that kept me sane.
I will try and do this! Did you experience work place gossip/a toxic atmosphere?
did he ever give a real reason for rushing to tell management like that, or was he just panicking and trying to control the narrative first?
When I spoke to him he said he wasn't thinking straight and said he thought that's what I wanted... when I didn't actually confirm breaking up... I just walked away when he was irate...
he struggles with his mental health, a bit. it's just a bit humiliating.
thank you so much 💛
the fact that he ran straight to your manager a single day after the breakup makes my blood boil for you. i went through something similar where my ex blabbed our business to mutual friends before I even had time to breathe, and that specific humiliation of having to walk into a shared space with everyone knowing is brutal. sending you so much love, working together makes this a hundred times harder.
I just do not understand the logic behind it!!! So frustrating.