my friend (who's a lot older than me) me her and her lover hung out yesterday and whenever l do hang out with her at times l do get agitated and it's not necessary her fault but she thinks it is but l get agitated whenever we hang out and it's almost every day and l don't have the energy to hang out like that I'm not use to going out to places and l honestly need time where I'm fine and feeling better or just hanging out with my other friends my age but all my friends live two hours away from me and l do want to hang out with other people sometimes or just relax where I'm not constantly being asked questions about how l acted but l was getting frustrated cus l got back home Sunday from my dad's house and l don't usually do anything whenever l get back from spending time with family since I've been socializing with people for a long period of time and l honestly don't know how to be with this cus l can't figure out my feelings but yea
Last updated on:2026-01-01T16:46:20+05:30
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do you feel like she gives you room to just be quiet or low-energy? or do you feel like you have to perform a certain version of you around her?
both
i’ve learned to just slow everything down. less explaining, more noticing what my body’s doing. taking a few days for myself usually helps me figure out what’s actually mine and what’s pressure from other people.
yea
i used to hang with a friend way older than me and the vibe was heavy even when nothing was “wrong.” i’d get drained and then feel guilty for needing space. it’s such a weird lonely place to be in.
it is