I (26F) now live with my mom after ending things with my boyfriend of 7 years, and i’m in my head about how on earth I’ll find anyone that would want to be with someone that still lives with their parent. Am I overthinking or being rational here? How am I supposed to meet someone and then say “oh sorry I can’t bring you home cause I live with my mom” (not saying I just want to sleep with someone, but I’m thinking about not being able to even offer a place to go to). I have no problem living with my mom, and I even love it, plus I don’t even know if I’d be able to afford a place by myself. who’s gonna want me when I’m a grown ass adult living with my mommy? TIA❤️🩹
Last updated on:2026-01-28T16:24:03+05:30
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do you actually feel embarrassed about living with your mom, or are you borrowing that shame from what you think other people might think
after my long relationship ended i moved back in with my parent too and felt SO ashamed about it. like it erased my adulthood somehow. turns out the right people didn’t see it as a flaw at all
I also had to move back in with my parents 3 years ago after my engagement fell apart. I lived with them for a year, saved up and got myself an apartment.
in your situation - you should decide if you'd like to wait until you move out or be willing to work around the logistics issue of living with your mom while dating. It is possible, and remember, someone who is for you would understand your situation and they won't mind when you have no place to offer. Hope my words helped, goodluck.
Don't feel bad for living at home with your mom. I also live at home with my parents and borrow their car to get around. I also don't work because I am on disability. It was very difficult for me to start dating again because I was like who wants to date somebody who has health issues and lives at home with their parents. I thought nobody could love me. who wants to take on more financial responsibility. I was surprised when I met my ex that he was fine with me not working because he made enough money to potentially support me and he wanted to marry me.It didn't bother him at all. he actually liked that I lived at home because I was so close with my family. my parents are getting older now and I really cherish the extra time that I get to spend with them. in the evenings we watch Netflix together. I live in an area where rent is extremely expensive and I know that I will never be able to afford to move out. sometimes that really depresses me and makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed. I totally understand how you feel. in other cultures it is normal for people to live at home with family until they are married or until they can afford to buy a house. I think it is becoming more normal for people to live at home due to inflation. I think you're doing the right thing. I know that during my breakup it has been extremely comforting to have my mom close by. I'm just really happy that you have your mom's love and support during this time and that you get along with her. I hope you enjoy this special time with her. ♥️
You are just overthinking here...There is no such rule that if you are grown, then you should not live with your family...If you are earning, this is not a major problem.