i met her online over three years ago. it started casual but turned into a long-distance relationship that felt real and intense. we visited each other across countries and every time it made me believe we were building something solid. she was even supposed to move in with me and i was all in.
i knew she shared a dog with her ex but i didn’t realize they were still that close. everything shifted around july 2024 when she told her ex she was moving to be with me and the ex admitted she still had feelings. that’s when i set a boundary if we were serious that connection had to end.
in october she visited me again and it felt perfect. easy natural like she was my person. i trusted what we had.
but by december things started falling apart. her ex was stalking me and even my friends online. when i brought it up she said she handled it but that’s when the truth started coming out. after that october visit the same ex she said didn’t matter picked her up from the airport. they had even lived together during the first part of our relationship. they never really stopped talking i just didn’t know.
there were too many lies to ignore. her ex tried to interfere but i also stayed longer than i should have holding onto what i thought we had. by early 2025 i finally reached my limit and walked away.
what hurt almost as much as everything else was how fast i seemed to be replaced. she started posting pictures with other women almost immediately. i cut off contact. later she went to therapy and tried to come back but i didn’t go back.
the version people see of her online the romantic gestures the perfect image that wasn’t my reality. for me it came with dishonesty and i know i deserve more than that.
it’s been a while now. we don’t talk. i chose myself and left.
but she’s still on my mind.
and that’s the part i hate the most.
i know i made the right choice. i know i deserve better. but i still miss her and i’m exhausted from feeling this way. i just want to move on. i just want it to stop hurting.
does it ever actually stop hurting? i’m tired of grieving something that wasn’t even real and somehow it feels like it’s getting heavier instead of easier.
Last updated on:2026-04-17T06:29:49+05:30
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i have same thing which long distance relationship for 3y but i never seen him or have any real date or any meet and he did say alot for reasons (excuses for me ) why he couldn’t come and its just france to spain not so far but i cant go me cuz i never had this experience before and i was in country illegally but i was warning him if he doesn’t get his self together i will leave and he was doing his choices and Imgine ppl i never meet him like never know who or how is he. and last weeek i said if he is not come i will be done i did decide i say it i try im still but its so fucking hard even distance and im 26 i had alot of breaks up and i did pass them so easy but this one i swear to god i did think will be easier but it was hard still hard. its just yesterday any advice can help me 🥹
heartbreaking story 😢
I think a year is not that long, and that you've done the hardest part of the healing process.
You will be fine ! It's very brave you didn't waste your time on someone who hurt you and you couldn't fully trust. Congrats for that you can be proud !
this is so painful to read.. the part were, kept in the dark, I thought I was the gf, apparently I was the sidechic.. yet, you loved and forgave.
you have such a strong personality, and with such courage to walk away. I applaud you for that.
I just think you need to be held. For a long time. And I think you need to actually take that embrace and let your pain bleed out onto that hugger. Let them hold you for as long as it takes. I hope they hold you until you can exhale again. I hope they hold you for years and listen to you.