last Saturday, my ex and I of 7 years broke up. he ended it, but I have wanted to end things for almost a year now, but always knew I could not be the one to do it. I was always hopeful and tried to make him happy and tried my hardest to stay, since we have so much history together. things didn’t go great on Saturday, and my ex took my housekey without my knowing. I’m still on the lease until the end of January, but he basically kicked me out and I didn’t realize until I got out of there that what he did was illegal. I’m going back to our place we shared together today to sign my name off the lease, get a new key, and get some of my belongings. he threatened to damage them and throw them away. I’m so nervous to see him today especially with the way he’s acted and how I know he’s still super fired up. this is me just venting for the most part, I really want this day to be over. on Saturday, I’m picking up the rest of my stuff because I’m getting a u-haul and then I will finally get to be no contact for good and away from him. I guess I’m venting because since I’m now realizing the emotional and mental abuse I put up with, I’m worried he’s gonna be an absolute monster and purposely try to trigger me since he loves to do that when he’s mad at me. how can I stay strong during this?
Last updated on:2026-01-29T16:54:03+05:30
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do you have anyone who knows exactly what’s happening today. someone you can text before and after, just so you’re not carrying this alone while you walk back into that space
i went through something scarily similar. long relationship, i wanted out but couldn’t be the one, and once it ended he got mean fast. keys, threats, intimidation. realizing later it was emotional abuse messed with my head
I'm so proud of you going with your mom to remove your name off the lease and to get your stuff. please make sure that document what happened today with him throwing the key at you in front of landlord and mom and that he took your key away from you without you knowing. please also save text messages or emails from him and document any verbal or physical abuse from him with rough dates and times. Just because months or days or years have passed I believe you can still press charges. My ex boyfriend's ex wife pressed charges on him even though five years had gone by and she couldn't remember the exact date. I just want you to know all of your options. also save any photos that document the abuse.
I want you to know that you are worthy of a safe and loving relationship. I believe in you. My first boyfriend was also abusive and I did free trauma counseling at a womans center. I found EMDR therapy really helpful for helping me to process my traumatic memories. Thinking of you.
thank you❤️ you help more than you know
@GlimmerFlex399 anytime. we will get through this together
I did it!! my mom and I went and the landlord was there. I did not expect him to be civil and he was not. the landlord told him he needed to give me my key and it “accidentally” got thrown to me, but luckily my mom and the landlord saw it. the landlord said “let’s just keep this calm” my ex packed up all my stuff, so jokes on him for doing that for me lol. we were in and out in about 5 minutes and I signed my name off the lease. I didn’t say bye to him. the only thing I said to him was I asked him where a notebook was that I used for my cat with his frequent vet trips. he snarkingly said it was packed and I said it’s fine. I’m just proud I got through it. I had to break no contact today, and I have to see him on Saturday to get the rid of my stuff, but then it’s goodbye for good.
Please, don't go alone. Have a friend or family member with you and if you don't want them involved, ask for a police escort or welfare check.
my mom is coming with me and the landlord will also be there to give me a key
we’re planning on having police presence on Saturday
@GlimmerFlex399 Good. I hope everything goes smoothly