he was the one to breakup with me (because he thought I cheated, but I did not. not the first time I’ve been accused). I’m so proud of myself that I have gone 22 days no contact. today is his birthday, and this morning I woke up to a voicemail from his friend’s phone number and it was him giggling in the background and then saying “good morning sweetie” at 9:00am today. what do you guys think this means? why is he reaching out? I have his number blocked, but why is he resching out? he has me blocked on every other platform. even if he was drunk, why? he was physically violent on top of his usual emotional abuse at the end so after nearly a month after the breakup, I’m wondering why he’s calling me saying things like that especially when I was under the impression he hated me because he THOUGHT I cheated. TIA💗
Last updated on:2026-02-23T20:53:51+05:30
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when you heard his voice, did it feel comforting at all, or did your body tense up? sometimes that reaction tells me more than the words do
tensed up so bad and put me in flight or fight again
i can’t tell you what it means, but i’ve learned sometimes it’s not about meaning. it’s about access. if he thought you cheated and ended it, yet he’s calling from a friend’s phone while you’re blocked everywhere else… that feels less like love and more like testing if he still has a door open.
this gave me chills. i was accused of cheating too when i didn’t, and he used that as his excuse to blow everything up. then weeks later he’d pop back up like “hey you” from random numbers. it messed with my head so bad. especially after the violence. it’s like… you hurt me and now you’re giggling? i’m really proud of you for 22 days no contact though. that’s not small
It's just a manipulative act. People often reach towards comfort when they realize they have lost access to it. Take care of yourself. Focus on yourself and stay strong. With time he will reluctantly get the message. Don't allow yourself to be dragged into a narrative where you're a villain for his amusement. You as a person deserve better than that.