19 days post-breakup: why am i so hurt?

i am avoiding him like my life depends on it, not seeing social media at all, i have deleted everything, skipping college at all cost, and even if i go i avoid the places where he might be, and i feel disconnected with him now, since i am avoiding so much, to protect my heart and protect myself but recently..2 days ago i saw him, he was laughing with his friends...and it just wreck me because how could he move on so quickly, for the entire day i cried...
i am just hopeful that after 15 days, he won't be in college anymore, he will graduate and just leave this city for good...i just want him to go away.. i am just distracting myself at best.. cause if i go anywhere near him, i will burst into tears, maybe i will just faint because i loved him with my whole heart.

Last updated on:2026-03-31T11:53:53+05:30

Comments (12)

BraveMe588
BraveMe588 5 days ago

I will pray for you i understand what you are going through but it's the truth which no one can accept at this point of break up but you will heal sooner or later

Venus
Venus 1 wk ago

You are doing everything right and you'll soon be better.
Stick to the NC

LoveLoom753
LoveLoom753 1 wk ago

we broke up yesterday. thankfully we have a 2weeks Vacation from school but when that ends idk what I'm gonna do.It hurts I go from hating him and wanting him back. he did me bad (said he lost feelings in mid Jan but its March now so he's been checked out and has had more time to deal with it than me) tf I do to deserve this? the night before we broke up he said I love you. he's such a liar.

GarBear
GarBear 6 days ago

we are in the exact same situation but it was my girlfriend who did the same thing. “I lost the spark” but she lead me on for months

Billionaire
Billionaire 6 days ago

The night before my girlfriend broke up with me she said she love me then she blocked me from her phone. It been weeks I haven't heard from her. Still trying to send msg to a blocked phone, voice msging hoping one might get through

Unicorninja
Unicorninja 1 wk ago

It is so interesting because with my break up, I tried to reclaim all the spaces we shared moments in. And seeing him hurts less, it hurts definitely but less. I think it is interesting to see how we heal differently

ivyyycoreee
ivyyycoreee 1 wk ago

it happened with me too but during my last breakup when things weren't very serious, but this one...like my entire future was this guy, i thought we were getting engaged next year....he said he wanted to marry me when we are 23.

lostheart
lostheart 2 wks ago

hi you feel like avoiding everything is helping you heal, or is it starting to make your world feel smaller and heavier?

ivyyycoreee
ivyyycoreee 2 wks ago

smaller and heavier

Onyinye
Onyinye 2 wks ago

I admire your strength

Sqweed69
Sqweed69 2 wks ago

honestly you’re doing what you can to protect yourself, i did the same

Lazyqueen
Lazyqueen 2 wks ago

i used to change my whole routine just to not run into him… and then one random moment i saw him laughing like nothing ever happened and it BROKE me. it’s that shock of realizing they’re okay while you’re still hurting