i broke up with my ex last year after being together for years and it really feels like it’s over this time. the relationship was toxic and now he just blocks me anytime i try to reach out or even if my friends do.
i’ve noticed i tend to be into distant nonchalant guys who still show interest and i keep ending up in the same cycle. whenever things don’t work out with someone new i end up going back to my ex.
i get rejected a lot and it’s been like this for years. i don’t really know what i’m doing wrong. i have my own personality hobbies and interests but when i meet someone i actually like we either don’t connect barely talk or they just aren’t interested.
even when i was younger it felt similar. i’d get rejected quickly or people would date me out of pity and there was a lot of cheating involved too.
i know things can take time but it’s hard not to question myself when i see others getting attention dating or being confessed to while that never really happens to me. it makes me wonder if there’s something wrong with me or if i’m just not that likeable.
Last updated on:2026-04-15T19:29:03+05:30
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do you think you’re actually into those nonchalant guys, or is it the feeling of finally being “picked” by them that pulls you in?
the shift for me was realizing i was drawn to people who made me feel unsure, it felt familiar
i used to chase the same kind of distant guys too, the ones who gave just enough to keep me hooked, and every time it ended i’d run back to my ex like it was the only place i felt chosen
focus on you I'm going thru the same thing