No contact doesn’t work, he won't leave me alone and I don't want him to leave me alone. For context, he broke up with me because he feels like he's not doing enough, I told him almost every single day how grateful I am and that he's enough, I praised him for his changes and was always there. He says he still loves me, he still wants me.. but he don't want a relationship. He's not a bad person at all and that's why it's so hard to walk away. So... how do I choose myself?
Last updated on:2026-04-22T23:45:24+05:30
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i know it feels impossible
It really does
you feel like staying in contact is actually giving you what you need, or just keeping the hope alive so it doesn’t fully end?
Keeping the hope alive but it has to end.. I feel like I'm going crazy
i was in something like this where he kept saying he loved me but couldn’t “be in a relationship” and still stayed close. i stayed because he wasn’t a bad guy either, but it slowly wrecked me
It's just driving me insane. So sorry you had to experience this
the question is, do you want a relationship?
I do but I can't force him to choose me
@NitroPulse213 i think your best option is to block him. If he doesn't want a relationship, but still expresses his love for you, thats just manipulation to keep you around even if he cant give you want you want. By blocking and going no contact, thats choosing yourself. You deserve someone who will step up
@DreamyWay697 I hear you but that's the thing. I can't block him because I want him around, it's like I'm destroying myself only for him to break my heart over and over again. He said I should choose my ex if that makes me happy, I told him to stop playing with me. And again, he said he's not playing, he still wants me and it would bother him if I would choose anyone over him. I'm just confused and embarrassed to let this happen. So I guess I do know what he's doing and I know how it makes me feel but something inside of me can't let him go even if I want to... I apprecciate your help a lot!
@NitroPulse213 i understand your addiction to him, but you are torturing yourself by not leaving for good. He gives you the dopamine fix you crave. ill never judge you for not letting go, but the pain of enduring this only gets worse. Just don't lose yourself by keeping him in your life.
@DreamyWay697 Thank you so much. You’re right I know you are it's just hard and confusing.