I was recently discharged from a mental health stabilization program after spending four days getting my medications adjusted. I’ve struggled with anxiety for a long time and I also need to be honest that I had been abusing kratom before checking myself in.
The night before I went I told my boyfriend everything. We’ve been together for almost a year have a trip planned to celebrate our anniversary and up until now our relationship felt incredibly strong. We’ve made so many memories together traveled laughed and built a life that felt real. He’s not just my partner he’s my best friend.
Now only a day after I got out he’s telling me he needs time to decide whether he still sees a future with me. What makes it even harder is that he’s bringing up small disagreements we’ve had in the past things that lasted maybe 20 or 30 minutes and never seemed like major issues at the time. He says it’s not just my mental health situation that has him questioning things.
His whole tone toward me has changed. He’s gone from saying I love you to speaking to me more like a friend. It feels distant and I can’t stop wondering if this is the beginning of the end.
I’m devastated by the thought of losing him. I truly believed he was my forever person. If the roles were reversed I can’t imagine needing time to decide whether I wanted to stay. That’s what makes this hurt so much.
Part of me worries he’s already made up his mind and is just waiting until he feels I’m stable enough to handle a breakup. I genuinely do feel stable and committed to getting better but right now I’m scared heartbroken and unsure of what to think.
I’d especially appreciate hearing a male perspective. Does this sound like someone who is processing a difficult situation or does it sound like someone who’s already halfway out the door?
Last updated on:2026-06-25T18:40:12+05:30
Comments (2)
the timing of this is brutal 😞 when you told him about the anxiety, the kratom, and everything that led to checking yourself in, did he seem shocked and supportive, or did something in his behavior change right there before you were even admitted?
going thru something similar and my now ex brought up a conflict (that he was at fault for) from over a year ago randomly in the process of not having grace for my mental health