anybody no contact for 100 days and still feel the same feeling for them ????
Last updated on:2026-04-29T23:27:03+05:30
Why does it still hurt after 100 days apart?
anybody no contact for 100 days and still feel the same feeling for them ????
Last updated on:2026-04-29T23:27:03+05:30
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are you missing them as a person or the way they made you feel when things were good?
are you missing them as a person or the way they made you feel when things were good?
i hit 3 months no contact and it honestly felt like nothing changed inside me. same thoughts, same pull, like my body didn’t get the memo that it was over 💔
I would have before but honestly I have been doing some work and now I think I would tell him: im in a different place now and that im not interested in visiting the past.
For the past 11 months I have been doing nothing but learning all kinds of things on attachment theory and myself because I had so many questions. this relationship was not the same as any other relationship I had in the past and its still inside but its your attachment that makes you feel that. it gets better I promise within lots and lots of time unfortunately. I still love him and I still care for him but im not in love with him if that makes sense. For anyone to ever put me through something like that ever again is a no no. this has traumatized me so bad.
ask yourself this...
do you really want them back?
why?
are you really willing to go through this again?
if and when they come back its only long enough for them to get triggered before they pull the carpet from under your feet again and the 2nd time hurts worse than the 1st time.
honestly what makes you love him? or is it the feeling you think he gave you? if its the feeling - do you realize that all come from with in you? what has he honestly done in the past year to be a man of your relationship? i can already almost guarantee we probably went though just about the same.
did yours do the messed up slow fade? or the rapid discard? this was a first one for me and it was long slow and painful. I had no idea what so ever.
yessss
unbelievable
do u accept them if they comes back to you
@jin57 forces on yourself and heal. that is what I have been trying to do. he activated 4 wounds at once on me and then kept reopening them with intermittent reinforcement and breadcrumbing im so sick of it all.
they say what they think you want to hear to get back on your good side just to crap on you again. its awful. they would have to want to find and seek help and even then it takes years. I still long for mine everyday but I just tell myself, yes he was once important but he no longer here. it tends to lessen the pressure and the sting. did you get the sting yet? the sting from avandonment- its constant.