He asked me a couple days ago to just pretend nothing happened and wait until his bday and go on separate ways for a week ... his bday is on May 8 we broke up on April 18 .
It's just so hard to pretend that he didn't hurt me . *ps I havent answer him
Last updated on:2026-05-01T20:12:11+05:30
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I think that if you pretended that everything is okay just for his birthday, it would be something that would destroy you because you know that the spark is gone, but somehow it's forced.You should tell him that this is not how things work and try to focus on your healing.
Thanks for the advice, I already told him off just a couple mins ago before I saw your comment š. He didn't handle to well..... he kept hinting he will kms that i rejected his offer i just blocked his ass when it was getting fuck up .
i couldnāt do the pretending thing, it just kept me stuck longer. when someone hurts me, i need space to actually feel it, not play along like everythingās fine.
do you even want to be around him on his birthday after everything, or does it feel like youād be doing it more for him than for you?
I want too be at his birthday , but I really can't go and pretend the hurt isn't there.
absolutely not. You donāt owe him anything. Birthday or not.
iāve been in that exact spot, where he want to just āpauseā the pain like itās nothing. i remember trying to act normal while i was hurting so bad inside, it felt so fake and honestly made it worse.
good job staying strong. That sounds really hard