i feel like i’m still waiting to wake up from this bad dream. i’ve been better this week but now because he reached out to me yesterday, i think it reset my mind and convinced me that he’s coming back. i know he isn’t. all he wants from me is friendship. i know that i’m not ready to give that to him but it’s hard to not take him up on it just so i can talk to him again. all of this is so hard. i feel so empty and so hurt. how can he already be over our relationship? did a whole year mean nothing to him? i don’t understand how he is ready to be friends already. tomorrow marks two weeks since the break up. this is all so surreal and i can’t believe it’s actually over. i’ve been trying so hard to move on and one message from him has set me back so far. i’m angry with him for reaching out after i asked him not to, does he not want me to heal? i feel so many emotions and i am so tired. i don’t know what else i can do to forget about all of this.
Last updated on:2026-05-04T15:00:05+05:30
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do you think talking to him right now would actually help you heal, or just keep you tied to him longer?
for me it's almost been a year since my husband cheated I often felt like I was living my worst dream ever I can't even sleep anymore I literally passed out my husband and I have married 8 years it's been one year and a few months since the cheating and he left home he's come back a few times but continuously bounces between me and the little girl that's literally 12 years younger than him she's a prostitute and a junkie stuck on Fentanyl that got him strung out and Fentanyl that's just the tip of the iceberg girl I guess my only suggestion is to surround yourself by other people until you can trust yourself again move somebody in or move in with someone to try to help distract you from what he could possibly be doing that's the only thing that helped me through those moments where I truly felt like I was in a bad dream
same thing happened to me, we dated for 2 years, broke up and 3 months later he already moved on
i was starting to feel a tiny bit okay and then one message from him pulled me right back in like nothing changed. it really does feel like a reset 💔
I feel this is the same thing gonna happen to me…
I am afraid of getting any msg from him. though I have blocked him from most of my social handles but left Insta.
i dont have courage to close this last leaf of hope
same for me. kept his number and insta. didn’t think he would reach out though, he seemed so over me. i think he feels bad / we were best friends before we ever dated and he misses being friends. it definitely threw me for a spin but i spent the past couple weeks wishing for a text and now that it happened i know i can’t handle taking to him. it hurt and set me back to speak to him but i also have closure now that i’m 100% not ready yet. i’m sure if he reaches out to you it will be hard but it will end with you knowing what is best for you :)
@pizzapan I feel the same way. we broke up on Friday officially, said he wanted to keep talking to me. I don't understand why they can't see the damage they cause and how much that hurts.
maybe he is just reaching and wanting to keep friendship to feel less bad about the breakup...