I made it to 53 days! im very proud of what I've accomplished in that time in terms of self discovery and enriching my life without him.
Today I did a breathwork workshop. At about 730am this morning I saw there was a msg from him. I decided not to read it because I wanted to focus all my energy on the workshop. It was an incredible journey and I was able to feel and let go of some really built up trapped emotions.
I really believed he wouldn't contact me again and we'd live our separate lives. We had a civil breakup and left on good terms. But it still shocked me he reached out since he was the one who ended things. Like they all say, once you've fully healed, thats when they reach out. I kinda feel like I won. I left him on read after our last interaction as a couple, so he technically double texted LOL
I feel like I was almost complete with my healing journey, when a couple of days ago I learnt my dad has months left to live. Then I was like "what breakup?". it no longer mattered.
I still believe i have a little bit left on my healing journey, if I saw him with another girl, I'd be hurt and jealous. But I feel like him reaching out is a good start. My response was pretty dry, didnt really inform him of what I've been doing or how im feeling. I dont feel like he has a right to that yet. I'd like a friendship with him, but I dont see us hanging out for a long time. I just want to see how he respects me now we are no longer in a romantic relationship. I never want him back, but he is a really good person that id like to keep in my life.
Last updated on:2026-05-31T23:45:15+05:30
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if he never reached out at all, do you think you’d still want him in your life as a friend, or did his message bring some of those old feelings back to the surface?
I think the end goal was to be friends and I did explain during the breakup that I needed time to heal. But I also know people change their minds after some time apart. I was happy to continue to live my life without him as i was never going to reach out first, but its also nice to have some communication again.
You did a great job making it this far. it's so hard to resist breaking the no contact sometimes. stay strong. keep giving yourself time ❤️
this made me smile today. i am so happy for you and i can't wait to join you in feeling this way. ❤️
you got this ❤️
53 days is amazing, you have inspired to keep going because I want that feeling too of not being the one to break the contact. Good for you 😃
the first couple of weeks were rough and I still held hope he would come back, once I let go of that idea and healed my life, everything became brighter again. Im never going to abandon myself for a man again. I believe in you. You deserve all the great things life has to offer
this is great. im so proud of you feeling so good about yourself and keeping control. I feel like id really love a friendship with my ex but I'm not sure if I can emotionally let go long enough to let that happen. We started as best friends.
give yourself time. If you both work at it, and both want it, you can be friends again. You just need to start that friendship fresh and not just picked up where you left it.
@DreamyWay697 I think I need to spend time away from them before I can be their friend. I'm not handling it very well and basically has an emotional breakdown the other day.. But thank you maybe you are right.
when my own life got turned upside down, it suddenly put my breakup in perspective too. honestly, keeping your response dry and protecting your peace sounds like exactly what worked for me when an ex came back around.
i actually smiled reading parts of this. i’ve had an ex reach out right when i finally felt like my life wasn’t revolving around them anymore, and it was weirdly validating. 53 days is HUGE, especially when you spent that time building a life that felt like yours again
this!!! it was satisfyingly validating! I won. My life is full so if he disappears again, I dont care haha