I broke no contact. I just can't get this girl out of my head..
It started by me texting them and they seemed surprised I went through the trouble.
Found out we were guna take a break then she fell in love with another guy..
she was open and kind and said sorry. she went into details of her new partner.
she's known him for a week and is sleeping with him already I guess.
I had told her I wanted to give her a letter.. she says she wants it. But I'm not sure I need that anymore.
should I just go back to NC and try to move on?..
please help im so broken up over this girl..
For details we had been together for 3 years just this April. Everything was alright we had some ups and downs.
Then suddenly they started distancing themselves and I think me pushing closer just pushed them away.
ill take any advice at this point.
Last updated on:2026-06-01T11:50:11+05:30
Comments (11)
you actually want to give her the letter because it would help YOU say goodbye, or are you hoping it might change how she feels about leaving
I think it would help me say goodbye. I wrote a 2 page letter..It was a long relationship
i think you should go back to no contact for sure. to be honest, learning about what's happening in their life is a terrible feeling because you realize you're not part of their life anymore and so you can't share in their newest milestones etc. moreover, they move forward towards their future without you...i think it's best for you to distance yourself for YOU. it's difficult in the beginning but i promise you with time, it does get easier. my relationship was my longest one and at the start of my life without my ex partner, all I wanted to do was find out what he was doing and whether he was just as sad as i was... but looking back, none of this information would have helped me and in fact, knowing would've held me back in a lot of ways. stay strong man, there is always hope. i promise.
thank you a lot for this. im not an emotional person guys arent supposed to be we are seen in society as the calm strong ones who handle everything. but I am really being shredded apart inside today.
@ItsNotEasy I'm really sorry to hear that. i understand where you're coming from but i want you to know that you have to feel your feelings. if you need to cry, shout or be angry, let yourself feel all these things. if you bottle them all up you'll spiral and it'll make moving on so much harder. give yourself some grace and allow yourself to FEEL all these feelings whether positive or negative. there is no judgement and i find it best to go through the motions when you're alone and you can have time and space and the freedom to process fully. it's in those moments that you will achieve the most clarity.
@LongDays2026 thank you for this. after I had a complete emotional breakdown the other day my sister had to come get me..it was a bit embarrassing.. I've never been bothered by a pain like this so much. I lost my parents and this was harder.
@ItsNotEasy i hear you man. when i went through my breakup, i ended up having to call a couple of my friends and being vulnerable like that was such a new experience for me because i don't really wear my heart on my sleeve. i was so embarrassed the first couple of days after but slowly I came out of it...in truth, i was happy to let all of that out...part of being human.
if it were me, i'd go back to no contact. the thing that helped me most was realizing every new detail about their new life just kept reopening the wound instead of helping me heal.
you are probably right.
i broke no contact once and found out my ex had already moved on too, and hearing details i never asked for absolutely wrecked me. three years is a long time, of course this hurts
yea its the longest relationship I've had.