i broke no contact today, it was her birthday i sent "Happy birthday, wish you all the best 🙂" she replied with Thank youu and that was it. Im not sure if i did the right thing, she still has all of my stuff at her place. Also she changed her profile picture right after she answered me to something more "provocative". Not sure how to react to this.
It just looks like she's with her friends having fun living life like nothing happened and that it doesn't bother her that we broke up.
Last updated on:2026-05-30T17:32:11+05:30
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i broke no contact on my ex’s birthday too and spent DAYS reading into every reply, every post, every little change afterward. that tiny “thank you” can hurt way more than getting ignored because it reminds you how different things are now
hang on there.
What do you mean by that
I understand how this must feel. Feel like when it’s their birthday it’s so much harder to not sent that happy birthday message because in some way you feel you owe it to them after all the times you must’ve talked about eachothers birthdays. I’m sure the breakup affects her a lot more than you think, people put a brave face on when things like this happen (especially if they know their ex is going to see it). as much as it hurts, you should try and hide her profile on certain socials. it’s not getting rid of her, it’s just giving you space to think for you.
Thank you for answering and keeping it real it really means world to me to have anyone to talk to.
It just hurts because i invested so much and kept it together more than her because she wasn't loved, i showed her that life can be beautiful, solved all her problems and now it looks like she's fine without me.
@BraveSpirit745 I know. it’s hard. I’m in the same boat. My ex broke up with me almost 6 months ago now and I still feel the same pain. just know that people can easily look fine but really, they just miss what they had. I’m sure that’s the situation with her.
@DreamVib685 It's inconsistent, with many ups and downs.
This birthday was like a checkpoint and reset that i knew would happen which made me think about it all the time. Now that it's gone, it's hard because i broke no contact and it looks like she's not interested in me but on the other hand i know that i will not reach out anymore. I'm starting to love myself more and that's important