me and my ex were together for a year before he broke up with me because he was dealing with family issues and couldn’t prioritise me in his life anymore. this was back in November. We went 2 weeks no contact before he broke it and ever since we have carried on speaking and seeing eachother 6 months later. it hurts because he doesn’t want me back as his gf yet because his family issues haven’t changed, but it hurts me even more because I know this isn’t the right thing to do. We had a conversation a few days ago and he admitted he’s been finding it hard knowing how I felt about the whole thing (unsure) and that he can’t go on like this with him knowing how upset it makes both of us. he tried removing me on all socials before adding me back again 15 minutes later because it was too hard. He keeps saying one day we will get back with eachother (has been saying that since November) but I’ve told him that him leaving me again this time is massively risking that I won’t ever come back. I’ve tried to stand strong and I’ve left his last message opened and I want to keep it that way. let’s see how long I can keep this up.
if anyone has any suggestions or opinions please let me know x
Last updated on:2026-05-30T17:31:11+05:30
Comments (7)
i spent months stuck in that in-between space too, not together but not really apart either, and it kept me hoping every single day.
He's trying to emotionally detach but it's not easy when it's forced.
I know how i feel like with my ex, i try to not show in any way that i'm hurt and focusing on myself but noone knows that i think about her every morning and every night while she seems fine.
It will work out if you try not to push it because there is still love and willingness to hold on to this relationship between you and i think that's the most important thing. Try to grow as a person so that if he comes back he can get the best version of you and if not you get to keep all of your achievements and feel fulfilled.
no matter what kind of family issues he is going through, a relationship can get through it together, you could support him through it. Instead hes discarded you, but kept you at arms length feeding you breadcrumbs like "one day we will get back together". Stay strong. He needs to be all in with you, otherwise he doesnt deserve you.
exactly. I understand people deal with problems in different ways, however, I know that I’d want the person who cares for me closer to me than ever if I went through the things that’s happened with him over the last 6 months. Definitely hurts knowing that the easiest thing for him to do was to let me go.
@DreamVib685 im glad you see it this way. The people you love are supposed to be closer when things get hard, you dont push them away. You know your worth and when to walk away
@DreamyWay697 i completely agree with you, this is textbook breadcrumbing and if I'm honest, if someone wanted to work through something and be with you, they would. i think this guy doesn't know how to multitask...we have free will and can prioritize what we actually want to prioritize in this life. i would argue that a relationship with someone he can lean on would make him stronger and more equipped to deal with whatever issues he has right now. in a way he's selfish.
You do not deserve to be treated like a secret. find someone thats happy to show you off to anyone and make you feel like the beautiful lady you are. sending love your way xx